Thank you for coming cards?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Should I send thank you for coming cards?
    Yes-- to all guests who came : (11 votes)
    58 %
    Yes-- to siblings and bridal party only : (3 votes)
    16 %
    No-- it is fishing for gifts : (5 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
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    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Same thing happened to us! I know we’re not supposed to expect gifts but it was interesting that some who didn’t gift had the means to do so and those who I thought for sure wouldn’t gift gave us over the top presents!

    Anyways, we didn’t send thank you for coming cards to guests that didn’t bring a gift. However, we did send thank yous to the wedding party members who didn’t bring a gift even though we also gave them a note at the rehearsal dinner. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think if someone comes to your wedding you should thank them for sharing your special day. Especially if they went out of their way to get there.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2614 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @Pollywog:  I’m sending thank you cards to everyone who made the effort of joining us on our wedding day regardless of whether they gave us a gift or not.

    Post # 6
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    2400 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    WE’re in the same boat! We decided to send thank yous just to ppl that gifted us- and same here, it was the less well off that gifted over the top while the higher class gifted much less. Weird but whatever. We also sent thank-you’s to ppl that didn’t gift anything but helped us out in the prep/day of stuff. We had a BBQ potluck in our parents home state and thankfully we had lots of friends & family pitch in and help with just about everything. 

    Post # 7
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    146 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We are sending Thank You cards to everyone who was there, even if they did not give a gift. We did not expect any gifts and really do want to thank EVERYONE who were there to celebrate with us.

    Post # 8
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    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I plan to send “thank you for coming” cards to anyone who travelled to get to our wedding.  For in-town guests, the “thank you for coming” is the free food, drink, and entertainment at the reception.  I’d never give a “thank you for coming” card for a house party or a dinner party, and I believe in being the same (polite) person for my wedding as I am every other day.

    Post # 9
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    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If you have already personally thanked all your guests for coming (e.g. going table to table) then I think it’s fine to not send them a TY card. DH and I had a smaller wedding and we were able to hit up each table and guest multiple times. We were able to personally say good bye to many of of them too. As such, since they had been thanked so profusely IMO we did not send the few people who didn’t gift a TY card.

    However, if you had a huge wedding and you weren’t able to thank them (aside from a generic TY toast, for example) then I would send one anyway just to make it personal.

    Post # 10
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    1103 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I think the thank you cards that are a picture of you two at the wedding are great, and nice to send even to those who didn’t bring a gift?  Maybe send that to everyone?

    Post # 12
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    2056 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We are planning to send “thank you for coming” cards to everyone who attends the wedding, regardless of gifts.  I want to use a wedding photo for this.  In the meantime, we are sending thank yous for all shower gifts, and for the wedding gifts we are receiving before the wedding.

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