Post # 1
I recently had my wedding shower and was gifted a set of monogram towels by my fiance’s mother and I’m not sure how to write a thank you note for them.
We took the towels back because 1. he received very similar monogram towels as a wedding gift for his first marriage, 2. I am not sure I’m taking his last name yet and I felt very left out, and 3. we registered for a set of towels we like and, since we like those towels best, those are the ones we want to put out and use (also, she said we can’t use the towlels, you just set them out for decoration…we have one bathroom with limited space. If it doesn’t have a use and I don’t find it aesthetically pleasing, I consider it clutter :/
So we returned the towels, but my fiance didn’t want to disappoint his mom so we bought two smaller towels – one with my initial and one with his. But since we’ve returned them, bought towels in a different size (one of which is a completely different letter) and because she will probably come over at some point and possibly notice the missing towels, how am I supposed to write a thank you? I appreciated the gift, but it’s not my style at all :/
Post # 3
You write a thank you note thanking her for the lovely towels and her thoughtfullness. No other explanation is required.
Post # 4
@Tatsinda: I second that.
@canaryCane: You are over analyzing what is just simply a gift. Write your thank you and be on with it 🙂 If you really feel bad then have your fiance deal with it. But in all honesty, they were just towels, not lingere or living room nik-knacks which are really preferred tastes.
Post # 5
I would still write a thank you and just not bring up that you returned them. I’m sure that she meant well by the gifts but may not have thought/remembered that he received them from a previous wedding (I wouldn’t even remember that if they were my towels, honestly), and she might not know that you’re considering not taking his name. I’m sure it wasn’t done to be malicious. I would just write a generic thank you for the towels and call it a day!
Post # 6
I was planning to write a thank you regardless, but just wasn’t sure what to say.
And I know she wasn’t being malicious at all, but they really weren’t a good fit…but since I don’t need to mention that we returned them, or why, it’s a moot point.
If she asks about the towels later (perhaps when she comes to visit) what do we say then?
I’m such a transparent person that I find it difficult not to simply state the reality of the situation and I almost feel as if I’m lying by omission. Eek. But I’m glad that I don’t have to state anything other than that I was grateful for her generosity and support 🙂
Post # 7
Say they’re in the laundry…
Post # 8
Umm I think this one could bite you in the butt ugh. New mil’s can be pretty touchy about stuff like this. Just saying you need to be prepared for her to ask where they are 🙁
Post # 9
You are brave! I would have kept at least one in the laundry closet so that I could put it out whenever she came over. I’d be worried that her feelings may get hurt, or that she’d be offended or something.
Post # 10
DH bleached them….OOPS! Problem solved.
Post # 11
You don’t need to give an explanation in the card. But you will when she comes to visit and asks you about them. I would’ve just kept them folded in the closet until she came over.
Post # 12
@StuporDuck: Hahaha. +1 (this would happen to me in real life anyway)
@Diamond84: This exactly. I always keep towels I don’t care for around for guests, wiping up the bathroom mirror/floor, cleaning up messes, etc. It probably would have been wiser to just keep them in your linen closet.
Post # 13
@Tatsinda < she said it perfectly.
Post # 14
I’m surprised a store took back towels that were monogrammed!
Post # 16
in your thank you note you act like you love the towels – she doesn’t need to know they have been returned! And if she finds out – your FI should take all the blame! 😉