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Thank You for no gift and not coming?

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
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    I've been searching around for an answer to this problem and I can't find it (although I'm sure it's been asked before)- so I knew where I needed to turn!

    We invited a couple to our wedding and both RSVP'd yes. However on the day of "Uncle" didn't show up because he was sick (or something). We received a card from both of them, but no gift (which is fine).

    How do I write a thank you note for this type of situation? I'm thinking something like this:

    "Dear Aunt and Uncle,

    Thank you for thinking of us on our wedding day. We were sorry to see that Uncle wasn't feeling very well and had to miss out on the celebration, but it was great to have Aunt there bringing love and support from both of you. The wedding card was lovely and had such a touching and thoughtful message. Hopefully we will all get a chance to get together and catch up soon.

    Thank you again -Us"

    I guess this could work? Mehh... any ideas?

     
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    missrobots    April 30, 2011  

    I think that's perfect.

     
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    KatNYC2011    September 24, 2011   London, UK (american expat)

    I think that note is very sweet and perfect.

     
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    lrr1980    December 4, 2009   NC

    @PaperCrane:Very graceful.

     
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    Ryansgirl    October 22, 2011   Canada

    That's great, I would be happy to receive that card from you

     
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    thanks for the validation ladies!

    Oh yea! This woman also wore all white to the wedding! I didn't take offense, but maybe I should add a little p.s. at the bottom: (Thanks for being a walking faux pas- Every wedding needs one!) 

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    That's a really nice note to send to them. Actually I don't think you have to send a thank you note if all you received is a card. So you could cut the line that says "The wedding card was lovely and had such a touching and thoughtful message" and just thank them for coming and being supportive of you. That alone would be a super nice thing to do.

     
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    guitargirl    October 2009   Ohio

    I agree with chelseamorning, but it's not required, so either way is classy.

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    Hahahaha That would be so funny if you added that P.S. O f course you are not to though!

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    Nice of you to send, as it certainly isn't required!

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    I think that's perfect.

     
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    Lindsay12.31.2010    December 31, 2010   Missouri

    I don't think it's required, but your thank you is very classy and perfect.

     
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    cakegal    August 14, 2010  

    I do not think you should write a thank you card. For weddings, thank you notes should be written to those who give gifts or help out. One should not write a thank you note for a card or for only attending (or not attending) a wedding. I know many on here diagree, but none of the etiquette experts do.

     
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    MissSawyer    September 1, 2012   Toronto, Ontario

    Very thoughtful and perfectly worded! It seems like your uncle really was looking forward to attending and would enjoy knowing you thought of him as I'm sure he was thinking of you.

     
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    featherhand    August 20, 2011  

    That is a very thoughtful comment and perfectly appropriate.

     

     

     

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