Post # 1
I just thought the title was funny, not actually how I feel 🙂
…For our Engagement Party, FI and I had a few guests RSVP “No” but they still sent gifts. How do we word our Thank You notes to them?
We also had one family (of 4) RSVP “Yes”, but they were a no show for the Party. A few days later I got a note in the mail from them, saying they couldn’t come because of Health Reasons, and they sent a gift. How do I thank them?
Also, do you send Thank You cards to people who didn’t give a card/gift?
We had 4 guests who gave nothing. FI and I want to send a card, but what should they say?
ETA: All the gifts we got were Cash.. We haven’t done anything with the money, its all in the bank, and is going to stay there. All we’re going to buy is a new mattress with the money, and I don’t want to tell people that lol
Post # 3
If they sent a gift, but couldn’t make it I would definitely send a thank you and say something along the lines of ‘thank you so much for the wonderful *insert name here*, we love it. We wish you could have been there to share our special day!’ and for the no gifts, I’d probably send a thank you that said ‘thank you for sharing our special day with us’.. or no card. haha one of the two.
Post # 4
For the ones who sent gifts, but did not attend, just thank them for the gift. Don’t bring up the party at all.
Thank you for your gift of giant glass bowl. We really love hosting and giant glass bowl will really help with that!
Sending thank you for attending, don’t mention the lack of gift.
Thank you for attending our engagment party. It was wonderful to see you. We had so much fun catching up. I hope that XYZ thing we talked about is going well.
Sending “Thank you for attending” is an ettiqute question mark. You have to be really careful not to make any accusations of not giving a gift. And the worst part is if you misplaced their card and they did give a gift and now you look ungreatful for the gift. I don’t think we will be sending “Thank you for attending” except for people who we know put in a huge effor to attend (i.e. I am inviting people from foreing countries, and if they make it, that is more than enough of a gift.)
Post # 5
@sillygoat: I feel obligated to send two thank you cards for guests that I know didn’t gift. One is an old Friend of FI’s who isn’t doing well financially, we figured he wouldn’t gift, him being there was what was important to us.
The other is my Grandfather. My parents and I were really surpirsed he didn’t gift, he’s doing very well financially. But, FI and I were also just happy he atteneded (even though he complained about various things that happened [or didn’t happen] at the party the next day to my parents & brother)
@Misswhowedding: Thats what I’m worried about, I don’t want to make people feel like I’m trying to make them feel bad or something for not gifting, I’m just happy they were there and I want them to know that… I just don’t want FI and I to sound like A-Holes, in anyway.
Post # 6
@Stephville: Guest that attend + give a gift “thank you for celebrating and for the generous gift of _______. “
Guests who showed up with no gift “Thank you for celebrating our special day with us! It meant a lot to us that you were there! We look forward to celebrating with you again on our wedding day. Thank you again for coming. “
“we enjoyed our e-party so much, we hope you did too”
Guests who just sent presents -“Thank you so much for the _______. We are excited to using it/puttig it toward _________. It will be great for _______. We are so excited to start planning the wedding. We hope to see you there in ______ (if you have a date). Once again thank you for your generoud gift.”
Post # 7
Some people might not think to bring gifts to an engagement party, especially your grandfather. Engagement parties are a relatively new thing after all. I’m quite sure that in your grandfather’s day, engagement parties didn’t exist. I would only send thank you cards for the gifts you received. I bet most people who just attended your engagement party (and didn’t bring gifts) thought of it as any other party and you wouldn’t get a thank you card for attending a party right? That’s what I would think anyway but then again I don’t really understand the concept of engagement parties and I’m only 30! lol 🙂
Post # 8
@As_You_Wish: I see where your point is coming from, we’re having a Destination Wedding, which was the reason for the large (180 poeple) engagement party. My Grandfather told me that he will not be attending the wedding, which is why I figured he would gift us at the party (honestly, I don’t even care about the gift — FI and I just don’t want him to feel snubbed, by not sending him a card) He’ll feel snubbed if he finds out other people got Thank You’s and he didn’t. Odds are he’ll find out because, he knows quite a few of the guests who attended lol
This party was seen as our “Wedding” here at home. It was basically told to all the guests through word-of-mouth, that we will not be getting married here.
All in all I just don’t want to upset him, because he was pretty PO’d after the party, I’m not sure why, but he didn’t feel properly intorduced to all the guests who were there, he didn’t like the band (or the Volume at which they played) and then proceeded to tell my Mom she “looked fat and could stand to drop 20-30 lbs”
I’m sorry if this came off harsh, but I guess my reply to you turned into a vent about my grandfather, so, I’m sorry about that lol 🙂
Post # 9
@Stephville: I would say something like “Thank you so much for your generous gift. We’ll be sure to put it to good use in starting this new chapter in our lives together. We can’t wait to celebrate with you on (wedding date)! Thanks again for the lovely gift.”
Post # 10
@SparkleBee11: Thank you! I’m going to use this for guests who came and didn’t gift:
______ and I would like to Thank You for celebrating our special day with us! It meant a lot to us that you were there! We enjoyed our engagement party so much, we hope you did too!
Stephville & Stephville’s-FI
I’m going to leave out the Wedding thing, because though we do have a date/venue/etc. We know that almost none of the engagement party guests will not be attending.
Post # 11
Since they were all cash, I would say, “Thank you so much for your generous gift. We are sorry you couldn’t attend, but we look forward to celebrating with you soon!”