Post # 1
We had a rehearsal dinner the night before our wedding, and invited an older cousin a few times removed (we are close with her and she lives near us) and her husband to attend.
A few weeks before the wedding, she asked my mom if 4 other people could come (her brother, his wife, and another couple they are friends with) because they were going to be in town the night of the rehearsal dinner. Of course we said yes, even though trimming the guest list for the rehearsal dinner was one of the hardest things we’d had to do.
The two couples we had not originally invited gave us a small gift (some serving utensils from all 4 of them).
I am wondering if I need to track down their addresses and write each couple a thank you note…what do you think?
Post # 3
hmm, had you never met these people before? if not, i am inclined to say that saying you in person was sufficient.
Post # 4
Ugh…as much as I wouldn’t want to, I would suck it up, track down their addresses and send them a nice thank you note.
Post # 5
I voted yes!
Mainly because these people may not know the rudeness that occured by the cousin (for inviting them). I think they may have been innocent bystanders.
Post # 6
Ugh is right! And we had met one couple before (the cousin’s brother and wife) but not the other. I am thinking of getting the address for the brother and wife and just asking them to thank their friends as well…or perhaps even writing one thank you to both couples? In the time I am taking to post this I probably could have just written the thank you. Ugh ugh ugh!
Post # 7
@bikinihoneymoon: Yes you must. You must thank each giver for a gift received.
Post # 8
If they gave you a gift then yes, you should send them a thank you.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
If you agreed they could come, that was their invite. I’d say yes. Now, if they had crashed the rehearsal dinner after you had said no…I might be more inclined to say don’t send a thank you.
Post # 10
A thank you note should be given to anyone who gives you a gift, regardless if they were invited or not.
Post # 11
if they gave it as a group gift, one thank-you is sufficient for the group…but you really should send a thank-you.