Post # 1
Heres the dilemma-
My parents are contributing thousands of dollars to our wedding, the grooms parents havent contributed a thing. FI brought up what will we be getting our parents for the thank you gifts- I dont understand why we would be purchasing ILs a gift for any other reason than to “keep the peace”. I dont really think its fair to exclude them, although I dont really think its fair to buy them a gift to “thank them”, when it was my family who helped.
What to do? He wants to buy a specific gift for mom, and then one for dad on each side. I feel like this is one more expense to jack up the never ending wedding bill. I didnt want to come right out and be a bitc- to him about it, I didnt know how to say it politely though.
Please help me keep my sanity! (and help me think of what to do! lol)
Post # 3
Maybe you don’t give gifts publicly (like at rehearsal dinner) but in private where your family and his family arn’t together. Give your parents a gift that expresses your gratitude for all they did to make your wedding happen and for being awesome parents and give your FI’s parents a gift that says, “Thank you for rasing the love of my life and being a part of our day.”
This is a tough one, as it also depends on the relationship your in-laws and parents have together. Are they going to talk about their gifts to each other? Maybe you even be blunt with your parents and let them know that you wanted to thank your fiances family for being the parents of your new husband but didn’t want to get them the same (or same in value) gift that you gave them due to your family’s huge contribution to the day. Maybe if they know that, they won’t talk about what you got them in front of his family.