Post # 1
my officiant is a friend who is doing our wedding for free, I was thinking of giving him a tie to wear the day of the wedding to match our wedding colors as a thank you gift. Or do you think I should give him $$ as a thank you?
Post # 3
Our friend is doing the same for us. We are definitely planning on getting him something really nice as a token of our appreciation. He’s not expecting anything, but I want to give him something that he’ll really like.
So I would probably find out what he’s into and give him something along those lines. It’s a little more than just a tie and more meaningful than money. But that’s just my opinion.
Post # 4
same here!!! a very close friend of mine from college – her dad is doing our wedding…in fact, he has done all of us that were close in college weddings!! it’s kind of a cute unspoken tradition going on…anyway we are getting them a room at the hotel for the night as a gift…since they have to come out for the rehersal and then the wedding, we thought it would be nice for them to just stay and hangout!! they aren’t expecting it at all, and he would never accept any money or anything we put in an envelope…it is a little pricey, but they are worth it!!
Post # 5
You should get him a gift for sure. But not something designed to match your wedding. That would be a gift for you, not him.
A nice bottle of wine or scotch. A gift certificate to a favorite restaurant. Something along those lines.
Post # 6
Because he’s a friend, a thoughtful gift would be very nice if you can find something he would like, but there’s nothing wrong with giving him money IMHO because you’d pay an officiant you’d hired! I like the tie idea to help him be dressed for the occassion, but you should get him something for himself as well.
Post # 7
well actually he isnt my friend but dating my friend, but nonetheless, i want to get him something without tipping him off (w/o asking his gf point blank), am i better off with givng him $$ as a thank or tip? if so how much?