Post # 1
Ok, so I am in a bit of a pickle…when we sent out our wedding thank you notes, one of the supporting members (not bridal party, mother of an usher – super old friend) got a standard (but thoughtful) thank you note from us. The problem is that she actually was SO helpful the day of and it completely slipped our minds going down that long list of names, gifts, categories, etc. that we did not thank her for being a HUGE help on top of sharing the night with us! I realized it about 5 minutes after I dropped them all in the mailbox, of course! Now I feel like a total idiot and want to thank her in some other way that doesn’t look like ‘oops and also thanks for being awesome’.
Thanksgiving is approaching and my mother suggested a Thanksgiving card along the lines of ‘reflecting on all that we are thankful for….’
This seems out of the ordinary and a bit strange. We are expecting our first baby in June and haven’t announce it yet, I thought of maybe adding it on to that announcement but then it makes it more about us and less about her again….
Thanks in advance, ladies!
Post # 3
Send her flowers with a card saying something along the lines that everything you did to help us could not be expressed in a card?
Post # 4
@VintageSparkle: I think your Mom has a great idea. You don’t have to get a special Thanksgiving card. Just write a note saying that Thanksgiving does remind you that you have so much to be grateful for, and one of those things is having her in your life. Summarize what she did for you and thank her profusely.
You need not make any explanation or reference to not being more effusive in your thank- you note.
She will be pleasantly surprised and pleased to receive a separate letter.
Post # 5
I like flowers (or a bottle of wine, or a coffee date) and a card or verbal thanks!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
What about just sending her another note (different style than the first) saying, “DUH, we meant to thank you for all your extraordinary help that day etc etc etc!” ?
Post # 7
@VintageSparkle: I would just phone her and say something like, “I was just writing my thank you cards and I realized that I wanted to give you a call for being so incredibly helpful during the wedding. It really means a lot.”
If you don’t feel like this is enough you could bake her cookies, or bring her flowers, etc. But I think your heartfelt thanks is enough.