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Thank you note issue - guests's father died

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    Ngolden1    August 22, 2010   Albany, NY

    I just started writing my thank you notes, and I find out that the father of a family friend who attended the wedding just died.  Should I send a "sorry for your loss" card, and just mention "thanks for the curtains"? Or do I do a Thank You card, with a mention of "sorry for your loss"? Or do I just do a sorry for your loss card? Or just a thank you card? What would you do?

     
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    sironel    October 30, 2010   OH

    I would do them separately

     
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    cheetah    January 1, 1990  

    I would send two separate cards, one thank you, one sorry for your loss.

     
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    MrsPinkPeony    June 4, 2011   Charleston, SC

    Suggestion: I'd send the sympathy card first.

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    definitely send both, sympathy card a few weeks before. 

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    I would definitely keep the two cards separate.  Thanking them for their gift is completed unrelated to his father's passing and vice versa.

     
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    divergirl    October 8, 2011  

    Definitely two seperate cards. If you're ready to send out the thank you notes, you can mail them together. However if the thank you's are going to take a couple days, just get the sympathy card in the mail.

     
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    PumpkinSpiceChai    September 2009  

    Send a sympathy card now followed by a thank you in a few weeks.

     
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    divergirl    October 8, 2011  

    Just to clarify, by mail them together I mean, mail them in the same batch, two different envelopes and stamps. Do not mail them in the same envelope together.

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    Sympathy card now, hold onto their thank you card until after the funeral or a couple of weeks and then send that in the mail. I wouldn't send two separate cards at the same time.

     
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    Ngolden1    August 22, 2010   Albany, NY

    Right - this advice makes perfect sense. I don't know why I didn't think of it.  Thank you!

     

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