Post # 1
Someone bought us 2 separate gifts. One I received in the mail already, set of canisters. The other I received a notification from Dillards that this gift has been ordered and will be shipped to me from the factory, it is on backorder. Do I go ahead and write a thank you for the gifts or do I wait until I have actually received them?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I think you’re fine with sending one-get it out of the way now
Post # 4
I wouldn’t send it yet…
Macy’s said that a gift had been purchased for me off my registry, but my friend never gave it to me! i guess she decided not to? Anyways, don’t send it until you get the gift.
Post # 5
@MDC6.9.12: I think you’re fine going with either option. The advantage to sending them now is that you get it out of the way (as noted) and you can let the giver know that the first part of the gift arrived (I’ve heard that one of the things gift-givers really appreciate about thank-you notes is that, when they send a gift that’s shipped to the recipient rather than, say, hand-delivered at the wedding or shower, getting the Thank You note allows them to know the gift arrived safely). They also might appreciate the heads-up that part of it has not arrived yet.
That said, it also might be good to let them know when the second part does arrive, so you could make a case for waiting until then to send the note. If you send it now, you might want to just call/email the giver when the backordered item shows up, to confirm that it got to you safely.
Post # 6
For the sake of an awkward conversation later (“Uhhhh, yeah….that gift never came) I would just wait.
Post # 7
I’d say something like, “Thank you for the canisters. They’re [insert how great they are]. And you’re so generous! We received notice that the [insert Dillard’s gift] is on its way. [And blabber on how wonderful everything is].”
Post # 8
I’d send the thank you now, and just drop a quick email later to let them know the second gift arrived in one piece.
Post # 9
I would send the one and wait on the other one. I think it’s a little weird to send a thank you note based on an email that this person didn’t even send even if it is clearly coming directly to you.
Did she also tell you it was backordered or was the Dillard’s e-mail the only one you recieves? Maybe I would send the second one if she had sent a personal e-mail letting you know it’s backordered and when to expect to recieve it.
Post # 10
Thanks for the help!
@BetterSherm: I think this is the best option. Our wedding is in 2 weeks. Surely I will have the other gift by then. I can thank them in person for the second gift to let them know I got it.