Post # 1
If a person you know would never not bring a gift, didnt bring one ( or its lost ) and it happens to be someone important in your career life, would you send a thank you note anyways just in case? Did this happen to anyone else? You just know there is no possible way they didnt bring one….
I just dont want to be rude if they really did send one and we some how lost it!! Awkward!
Post # 3
@masterteee2013: you would still thank them for attending, no matter what. I would thank them for sharing in your special day and talk about how much you enjoyed having them there.
Post # 4
@masterteee2013: Thank you notes are for gifts. It can be seen as fishing for gifts to continuously thank someone for coming. First you thanked them with the reception itself, then you thanked them in person for coming, so to keep saying “no but really, we thank you for coming” is redundant.
Given that this is a professional contact, I would do everything by the etiquette book.
Post # 5
Appreciate the advice ladies
Post # 6
I would wait it out. They may be sending one after the fact and it’s only been a week.
I agree that sending a thank you note for their presence is redundant. If you do decide to send a note, definitely do not thank them for the generous gift when there isn’t one.
Post # 7
Hold out a little longer – some people send gifts a little late. I had the same problem after my wedding and ended up receiving several gifts a few weeks after the wedding. I was so relieved because I KNEW these people wouldn’t not give a gift, and I didn’t want anyone to not receive a thank you card for something they sent!
Post # 8
Don’t just thank them for coming, and definitely don’t thank them for their “generous gift” when it’s likely they didn’t give you one yet. Sometimes people don’t bring gifts–you’d be surprised!
Post # 9
I sent both a hand written “Thank you for the generous gift” card and a picture card that said “Thank you for attending.” So people who gave a gift got two cards.
Post # 10
you do not send thank you cards for just attending a wedding.
maybe they haven’t sent a gift yet. however, if they did and don’t receice a thank you or want to inquire about an uncashed check, they will probably call.
then you can say you never received it.
Post # 11
Oooh. This is tough!
I would wait. You’ve just been married 12 days. That’s not even 2 weeks. If by the middle of July you get nothing, thank them for celebrating with you. I would not thank them for a gift that is not in your hands. If they notice you didn’t thank them for a gift they gave you, that might prompt them to ask if you got it. Then you can be honest and say no.
Another possibility, is that they ordered a gift that was backordered and either didn’t pay attention when they purchased it or didn’t read the email notifying them as such. I think I saw one of my items backordered for over 90 days at one point. Even though it was in red, it’s still possible someone could miss it. Maybe that’s what happened. They bought a gift to be delivered straight to you but it’s backordered. I used to work at a place where we could look up customers by name and see what they got someone, in such cases as yours. I’m not sure if your places have that option, but it might be worth checking!
Also, wedding gifts aren’t automatic. I know there are many people out there that adhere to this way of thinking…they consider themselves guests to YOUR big event. No matter the budget. I’m not suggesting this is for certain what happened, but you never know.
Post # 12
wait and see if something comes in the mail. if you don’t want to seem rude to someone in your career life jic you lost their gift, you can send them a vague thank you card in a couple weeks.