Thank You note strategies

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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868 posts
Busy bee

@SeaSalt:  I suggest having a bm write in the card what was given to you and on a notepad as well. Trying to keep it in the packaging might be easier said than done. As far as getting it done I would just start on it ASAP! 

Post # 5
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

At our shower, my MOH wrote down who gave us what and then my MIL tried to keep the items bundled together with the card. It worked well for us. I’ve also heard of the MOH/BMs writing names on tape and sticking it to the presents as they’re unwrapped.

Post # 6
Hostess
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SeaSalt:  +1 to the note suggestion. DH and I attached post it’s to each card and kept each card in its envelope as well to ensure that we had their addresses on hand. 

As I went along, I had an Excel spreadsheet with our guest list had a column saying what gift each person had given us, then checked the correct box when it was written, in an envelope, and stamped ready to be mailed. 

Post # 7
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667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I keep a running list of who has sent what and whether we have sent a note. Every free moment I get I’ll go through the list and make sure everything is done. We’ve had ebbs and flows of gifts coming in, but I think making sure we keep on top of it we’ll be okay.

Post # 8
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We wanted to send the thank you cards while on our honeymoon, to show that we were thinking about the guest even when away. As we went to France I painted (the flower decor ties in with our favors) and had these postcards printed ahead of time:

I had addressed the majority of the cards ahead of time, so while in France we simply made sure to fill out a few cards each evening as we were waiting for our dinner to arrive. One of my bridesmaids had helped us to write down everything we got as we were opening our wedding gifts (to make it simple, she wrote the gift next to the name of each person/address in the spreadsheet I had created for the invitations) so we simply decided on what cards to write each night and just surveyed the gift list a few times to refresh our memory.

Post # 11
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

@SeaSalt:  If you don’t send a thank you note before the wedding, at least let your guest know that the gift arrived.

Post # 13
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@SeaSalt: It was actually really fun to write those cards every evening – because as we had to communicate with each other as we were doing it, we ended up reading parts of the cards to each other. This made people around us realize that we were there for our honeymoon – so we ended up getting so many congrats and wonderful little chats and life advice from other people from all around the globe. 🙂

Also, I questioned making the cards myself as there were so many pretty postcards available in Paris – but I’ve gotten a bunch of emails and phone calls from guests since we got home, saying that they loved that the cards felt so personal. Makes me think it was totally worth it!

Post # 14
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5199 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Here was my stragegy for all thank you cards:

1) During my shower, have my sister write out a list of who gave what.  When I got home, transcribed that list into a google doc so I wouldnt’ have to worry about losing the list.

2) Write thank you notes in accordance with the list, checking each person off as I go along.  My goal was to get all my thank you notes out within 1-2 weeks.  I just sat down and wrote them each night, usually about 10 per night.

3) FOr wedding gifts, I updated my google doc (keeping a seperate page for wedding gifts vs shower gifts) as they arrived so that I could keep everything stright. 

4) For wedding gifts, to the extend possible I wrote thank you notes as soon as the gift arrived.  For anythign that arrived during or just before the wedding, I stacked them up then opened them/wrote the note after the wedding with the goal of all notes being written within 4 weeks.  

I should also mention that I found that keeping a thank you not station to be useful.  I had the cards, stamps, and pens needed in one place. I  also had my invite spreadsheet which had everyone’s address.  

Post # 16
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5199 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@SeaSalt:  Oh yeah, I did that too!  Nothing got put away used, or cashed (in the case of cheques) untill the card was in the mail.

Yes, I agree that cute cards will motivate!  I intentionally did not get cards that matched my invites so that I could have a variety of cards to send out.  Made it more fun.  

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