Post # 1
This may be super obvious, but I am feeling anxious about when to send thank you notes. My wedding is in a month (what!?) and we have already received a few gifts. I had a shower two months ago where we got lots of gifts, and I sent cards for those already. I am wondering, for people who sent wedding gifts already, should I send them notes now or wait until after the wedding?
Post # 3
The rule of thumb I have been using is all wedding gifts recieved before the wedding have to have thank you notes sent out a week before. The reasoning is for something like a check, I don’t want to mess someone’s books up because I took a month and a half to cash it. Congratulations by the way!
Post # 4
@lotto: The gold standard for thankyou notes, is to complete them before you go to bed on the day that you receive the gift. Gifts are *supposed* to be sent to your home, so these are not “early” gifts — it is the ones brought to the reception that are “late”. People who bring their gifts “late” need to understand that you don’t actually receive them until you return from your honeymoon and that you cannot be expected to write more than five one ten notes a day. One way to motivate yourself after the honeymoon, is to write the notes as you open the gifts, and only open as many in a day as you can reasonably respond to.
Post # 5
@aspasia475: Thank you for this advice! I don’t think they are early, just have arrived before I have figured out the thank you notes but I have some cards sitting around. I may send them now, and then send another note after the wedding when we have photographs to send with them.
Post # 6
Generally, you should send them out within a few weeks of receipt if it’s before the wedding, though no one would bat a lash if you waited until after your wedding, honestly. I’ve been anticipating a thank you note for 3+ months from a wedding I attended, so being a few weeks longer should be nothing that causes drama for you.
Post # 7
I say send a thank you as soon as you can. But I imagine people will probably cut you some slack if you waited until after the wedding for those you received closer to the wedding.