Thank you notes as a Christmas present?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@sweet5k:  It could be a thoughtful gift with no hidden meaning and it could be a pointed reminder.  

For future reference, I wouldn’t listen to your FI regarding when to send thank you’s to his family.  Not doing so isn’t going to reflect poorly on him but on you.  

Post # 4
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wouldn’t read into it too much. 2 weeks isn’t all that late to me.

Maybe she just figures you’ll need them and at least you’ll get some use out of them.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@sweet5k:  I wouldn’t read anything in to it.  I’m sure she just thought getting you some nice stationary would be a nice gift – maybe she just had no idea what to get you?

Post # 6
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@sweet5k:  Nah I wouldn’t read into it.  I’ve honestly been thinking about how much I wish someone would have bought us thank you cards as an engagement gift…it would have helped a lot.  At least it’s useful.  I’m sure she just thought it was something that you would use and wouldn’t have to buy.

For the future, I fully intend on giving my friends who get engaged a basket that consists of:  thank you cards, stamps, a nice pen, and a return address stamp.  This would be the BEST gift ever in my opinion! haha

Post # 7
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2720 posts
Sugar bee

I wouldn’t worry about it. One lady got my very ugly Thank you notes from Tuesday Morning. I said thank you and tossed them when I got home. I don’t know why she thought I needed them because I told her I got beautiful cards printed out but it’s the thought that counts.

Post # 9
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@sweet5k:  I can’t imagine ever sending thank you notes to his family for anything other than the wedding.  They would find it overly formal and it would create a divide between “them” and “me” that’s not really there anymore.  I think that if you treat them like your family, then don’t send thank you cards to them unless you’d do that for your family too.

Post # 10
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

What if you’d rather use pro photo thank yous? It’s a little presumptuous of her but probably there’s no hidden message. 

Post # 11
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1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sweet5k:  I got some gorgeous thank you notes once from a friend and never thought any of it. I wrote thank you notes up until I got married to my DH, I dunno, though I’m relatively young I just love the tradition of thank you notes and I usually write them to anyone who hosts me or does something nice.

Post # 12
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think she was just being nice.  My future grandmother in law got me some too.  I’m thankful because I’m going to need those. Lol

Post # 13
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1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

She probably thinks you’ll need them for upcoming random wedding-related gifts (showers, unexpected gifts, etc).

Post # 14
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8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I find that gift to be quite odd. 

Post # 15
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I wouldn’t be worried about it. I’m sure she’s just thinking that you’ll need some for your upcoming wedding events. Especially if she doesn’t know you that well she probably racked her brain to think of things you needed. My MIL got me the same present and I was excited.

Post # 16
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6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with PP, don’t read too much into it.  I got a few Thank You notes for my niece for her birthday, her Sr. year of HS.  I knew she would be getting checks, cash and regular gifts for graduation from random relatives.  She used up all 24 before her graduation party.   It’s something you don’t thnk to get when you’re out running errands, so it’s nice to have some around. 

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