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Ps we did open the presents in front of everyone and thanked them in person.
Whenever its a big party put on by the parents I expect them and I've always gotten them. I wouldn't be offended or angered if I didn't. But its not like an older childs party where the point of it is for the kids. A 7 year old may ask for this and that and have a list of friends and the parties geared towards the kids, but for a child that is 2? I see it as the parents making all the decisions and doing it for themselves and really you probably had to open all the presents. Thats just my opinion, I think its a very nice gesture and is appropriate.
Plus I'm obviously biased since I've always gotten them :)
I have been noticing that I get thank you cards for everything lately. I'm always pleasantly surprised when I get a thank you card from a kids birthday party but I wouldn't be offended if I didn't get one. If really depends on what your friends/family expect.
The kind thing to do is to send a thank you note. I try to always err on the side of kindness. In the case of such a young child, I think it would be cute (and easy and cheap) to make your own photocopied TY note. Maybe fold a sheet of paper in 4, then draw a cupcake on the front in sharpie and have your child color it in. Then on the inside write, "Thank you for coming to my birthday party!" and help your child "write" their name at the bottom. Then unfold and make 50 copies. If I received something like this I would be pleased.
I don't expect thank you cards for birthday gifts ever. Graduation gifts, shower gifts, wedding gifts? Sure. But definitely not for birthday gifts.
I think what's gotten out of control is the size of birthday parties for kids.
If you are going to invite 50 people to a birthday party for a child who is not yet of an age where they can do their own thank you notes, it is your reponsibility to send the than you notes.
@julies1949: i agree totally!
@bhutton15: when i was young (oh so many years ago) I was expected to write a thankyou for every gift i was ever given. Dunno if it's just a British thing but it was ALWAYS done. My friends' kids send me thankyous for stuff i've given. @snmcdowell: had a good idea - simple and personal.
@julies1949: I don't think there is anything wrong with inviting 50 ppl to a birthday party when 80 percent was family (FI has very large family)and the rest were kids....
I didn't say there was anything wrong in inviting 50 family and close friends. I did say having done that, etiquette dictates you do the thank you notes.
Children learn by example, so every year your son will be able to help more and more with the thank-you notes, until one day he is able to do them all by himslef.
our friend just gave us a thank you from her one year old for her bday party. i thought it was really nice. my mom taught us young to write thank you notes.
I was always taught to write thank you notes. If guests took the time to pick out a gift for your son, it is only right that you/your son take the time to write thank you notes. They do not need to be elaborate, but they should be done. Children learn manners from modeling their parents behavior.
I intended to send TYs to everyone that attended my daughter's 1st birthday last year but didn't get around to it. This year, I have prepaid our invitation designer for TYs so I will definitely make a huge effort to get them out this year.
In our family, parties average 60-70 attendees -- with that many people showing up, it's hard to give everyone personal attention during the festivities so a TY note afterwards is always a great way to show appreciation.
My SIL gets blank cards (think small post cards) and writes a short sweet note on one side. Then lets her daughter color on the other side. Yes when she was younger it was just scribbles - but it's a really sweet touch! And even though my niece was young - she got to join in on the 'project'.
I think its more important when kids get to the age where they can write them. My nieces/nephews never do, and often don't even acknowledge I sent anything - seems ungrateful for sure, but then again I have always been awful at sending out thank you notes so I kind of undertand :)
In terms of a 2 year old bday - if its all family and they were there in person, its probably not necessary since you probably thanked them in person. BUT sending a note is always a nice and appreciated gesture if you have it in you to do it:)
I think it would be nice to send them (with that said though I still haven't sent out my wedding TY's).
I agree with @Janna19 That it is probably more important at the age when the child can actually write the thank yous. My mom always sat down with us and had us write them. They even make cute fill in the blank cards for kids to fill out. I think its important to help teach your kids to be thankful for things and not to turn birthdays into an expectation that they get gifts.
I think you need to send the thank you cards. It is the right thing to do especially if your child is that young. I do like the idea of you writing on one side and letting your kid color on the other. I also think that as your child gets older that you need to have your child write thank you notes themself. I think it teaches great manners and works on good writing skills from an early age.
My mother had me and my siblings write thank you notes for EVERYTHING. The only exception for gifts were my grandparents at Christmas because they were there with us.
I would send them. My cousin sent really cute thank you cards from her son's first birthday party last year. She took a picture of him playing with the received toy or wearing the new outfit. She sent the pictures to the givers and wrote on the back "Thank you for the thoughtful birthday present! Love, Jonathan" It was a hit!
Jilian's SIL and jaylii9's cousin have the right idea. If you want to raise well-mannered children, you have to start modelling good manners when they are young and involving them.
You can't wait until they are 10 or 12 years of age and then tell them that now you expect them to be polite and send thank you notes. It won't work!
I've never gotten, nor seen a Thank you note for kid's parties. Only Showers and weddings, really.
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Do people expect a thank you card for kids birthday parties? I feel like everyone is sending out thank you cards for EVERYTHInG! Now I don't want to sound ungrateful in anyway but I feel like we are in a thank you card craze now. My son just recently turned two and we threw a BIG party 50 plus ppl. I planned on sending out thank yous but then I thought back to when I was younger... I went to birthday parties all the time and never once did my parents receive a thank card for the gift we gave and they never thought anything of it. Has etiquette on this subject changed? I really don't want all of the guests to think we are ungrateful but I just think its a little silly sometimes.