Post # 1
I’ll be here on/off b/c little guy is under the weather, but am wondering if you think that people these days write thank you notes for children’s birthday parties.
We did this for every one of his before, but ive really noticed that we have never gotten one from anybody else.
Am I antiquated (besides being 40) in thinking I need to send out thank you notes to the kids/parents who were at his birthday party or would you do that?
Post # 3
Nothing antiquated about it! I would definitely send out the notes. People who don’t expect anything will be pleasantly surprised, and those parents who do expect it would probably be a bit put off if they didn’t receive one!
Post # 4
You’re probably right! I’ve just spent 10 years sending out thank yous and rarely if ever gotten one myself (from another child or parent). Last year I had my dude hand write them.
Post # 5
I send thank you notes for everything, even casual dinners, only b/c I know how nice it is to receive them. Even a small gathering can be a lot of time and effort, and it’s nice to acknowlege it.
Post # 6
It’s definitely good to get kids in the habit, but as I learned it, unless it’s for a wedding/graduation, you don’t NEED to send a thank you if you thanked the giver in person.
Post # 7
I don’t know if it’s a requirement or expected, but I agree that it would be a nice surprise and be appreciated. My family has never been big on cards (thank you, christmas, anything), but I love making them, so I’m trying to get in the habit of sending them much more often. I love getting mail, so I think sending thank you cards for any occasion is a good idea. 🙂
Post # 8
My sister sends them out for my nephew (he’s 3). Well, she writes the thank you and he signs his name or draws a picture. 🙂 I think it’s great that you’re teaching your son the right way to do things now. Way to go, Bellenga!
P.S. wait! I just figured out your username! Bell – en (in) – GA. Right? I’ve been thinking “bell-inga” for all these months, but it suddenly makes much more sense!
Post # 9
i’d say it’s not necessary but a nice gesture to do!
Post # 10
Good manner is good manner, even if no one follows them much anymore! We always had to write thank you notes growing up, even if I have gotten lax on them the last few years. Time to step my game up!
Post # 11
Oh, the manners of kids these days! Their parents should be enforcing these
I guess my aunt thought it was rude that as a kid i never thanked her for birthday gifts and stuff…once she sent me a packet of thank you cards with a note saying I needed to thank people appropriately. Oops! I used to send ty cards to DH’s family for everything, but apparently it’s not necessary for family….?…Sigh
Post # 12
I would do it! I bet all the other mothers envy you. You’re the one who does everything right =) Haha. Do you always bake chocolate chip cookies and cupcakes too.
Post # 13
I don’t have kids, but I think Thank Yous are always a good thing. I am surprised at how many people don’t write them. Hand-written notes are rare in general and I think it’s great to instill this idea in your son. Even if people don’t have time to do hand-written notes, they could do Thank You ecards, and I don’t see too many Thank Yous in this form.
I don’t remember doing them as a kid though, which I cringe at every time I think about it!
Post # 14
I’m huge on Thank You notes. I think it’s sad that it’s kind of a lost habit–I definitely think it’s appropriate to send a TY for a child’s bday party. Personally, I always send TY notes and people really do appreciate it when I receive them. I think you’re a great mom for having your little dude send TY’s, Belle.
Post # 15
As long as I can remember, my mom made me write thank you notes! For Birthdays, Christmas, or even when some distant relative slipped me $5. To this day I still send thank you notes for dinners, for presents, etc. I’ll make my kids do it too 🙂
I like to think that most people appreciate my notes, but my FMIL told me she doesn’t want another thank you note from me. She “get’s that I’m thankful” (Nice, huh?) I’ve probably only sent her 4 over the last few years because I don’t want to seem like a kiss-ass, but whatever. *and breathe*
Post # 16
@recessionistaBride, I had to stop writing ty cards to the family b/c i was the *only* one who did it, and I felt like everyone ELSE thought I was trying to snub them by being more *proper* than them.
i used to give my MIL hospitality thank you notes when I’d stay at her house, haha. Now, not so much. I’m not *new* anymore =]