Thank you notes – for awkward gifts…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What to do?
    Send a thank you note, include gift details (specific items) : (7 votes)
    22 %
    Send a thank you note, include general gift ("thank you for the thoughtful gift") : (19 votes)
    59 %
    Send a thank you note, just thank for attending : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Don't send a thank you note : (3 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    3303 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If it were flavored condoms I might not say “thoughtful” maybe “hilarious.”  They were having fun so I’d think the thank you should match that tone.  I’d keep it light and fun.

    Post # 4
    1595 posts
    Bumble bee

    “we’re looking forward to using/enjoying your gift” 

    Post # 5
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    Keep it vague and just say that their gift made you laugh, and you were so happy to have spent some laugh-so-hard-you-cried time with them 🙂

    Post # 6
    1298 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @NowDontLetsBeSilly:  maybe thank them for hanging out with you, etc. and just thank them for the ‘gift’ generically without having to mention what it was specifically? 

    Post # 7
    528 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I got some awkward gifts, too, but I sent thank you cards to all the ladies who attended (whether they gave me a gift or not). In some of the cards I mentioned the gift, in others I didn’t. 

    I think it’s more important to mention the specific gift when you are sending thank yous for wedding gifts, ie: “Dear Aunt Millie, Thank you for the lovely toaster.”


    Post # 8
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I wouldn’t list what the items were, but I would thank them for giving a gift and attending.

    Post # 9
    3032 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    They clearly have a raunchy sense of humor so I might go with it (but my personality is a bit dirrty.)

    “Thank you for the XXX gift, glad to let you know it got great use last night.”

    “Thanks again for the XXX gift, we have had to replace the batteries twice in just the last 2 days.”

    “Since recieving your XXX gift, I have not been able to leave the house.”

    Post # 10
    95 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Someone gave me a wooden penis and joked that it was a fertility statue. 

    On her card I thanked her for coming, for the beautiful fertility statue and informed her that it was in a place of honour in the middle of our kitchen table so everyone could admire it. Haha

    Post # 11
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would write some equally hilarious thank you notes!

    Like for red lingerie, Have your groom write “thank you thank you thank you thank you -Groom’s name” on one half of the card, and write “Dear So-and-So, Thank you so much for the lovely gift! I obviously can not wait for the honeymoon! My husband has also included a thank you note after seeing it in the box when I brought it home. Can’t wait to see you at the wedding! Love, Bride”

    Post # 12
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @aliciapdx:  Hahaha love these!

    OP, if you think you know these ladies well enough to say things like that to them, definitely do – I’d love to receive a hilarious thank you note like that! 

    Post # 13
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @fascinated:  I got my sister her hotel room for her wedding night and this is pretty much exactly what the thank you note said!

    “Thank you so much.  You’d probably prefer I not share the details of how the lovely gift was used, so I wont.  We enjoyed it very much.”

    Hilarious, but not TMI.

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