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Thank-You notes for gifts before the wedding?

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do about thank-you notes for presents received before the wedding?
    Definitely send a thank-you right away, and then send another one after the wedding. : (4 votes)
    15 %
    Send a thank-you note now for the gift, and don't worry about sending another one after the wedding. : (10 votes)
    38 %
    Just wait until after the wedding and send one note for gifts and for coming to the wedding. : (11 votes)
    42 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    4 %
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    Jacqi    February 28, 2009  

    I have been getting a couple of gifts and cash/cards from people who will be attending my wedding (in 2.5 weeks). Should I send thank you cards for the gifts to let them know I have received it, and then another thank-you for coming to the wedding, or just wait until after the wedding to send one thank-you note?

    What did/would you do?

     
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    airythia    January 15, 2011   Dayton

    i feel like you should send a thank you note for gifts you've gotten before the wedding just so that the guest knows.  but to be honest a lot of these "rules" have relaxed a lot today.  i would make the decision based on budget and time.  if you have a lot of work/projects before the wedding or you don't have the budget to send a thank you card for the gift and attendance then i would wait until after the wedding.

     
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    bakerella    September 11, 2010   Toronto, ON

    I don't know because I have the same problem! One of our friends has sent a gift because she wanted us to use it over the summer, but now I don't know if I should send the thank you now and another one after?! On the other hand, she got married  a year and a half ago and STILL hasn't sent thank you notes so I know I'm in no danger of offending her if I wait to send a thank you until after the wedding ;)

     
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    Baileyh    July 24, 2010   Vancouver

    I was going to ask this same question today as well....I kind of want to wait (the wedding is in four weeks) and send them a nice thank you with a picture etc...but i also want them to know we recieved it and are very grateful.

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    I think you're close enough to you wedding date at this point that you should just wait and send the thank you afterwards.

    We're doing all of ours afterward as we're doing a picture thank you card but I've called a couple of people to thank them for gifts we got beforehand (that way they know we received them).

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    For gifts we received before the wedding, we sent thank you's right away. It was just a personal preference thing, though, because it was one less thing we had to do when we got back. We only got a few gifts ahead of time, though. Most came after we left for our destination wedding, or we were given cards at the wedding.

     
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    texasmeredith      

    If you have time, send thank you notes now.  If not, wait until after the wedding.

    BTW - I don't think you need to send a seperate thank you note for attending the wedding.

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    Normally I would say to send your thank you notes as soon as you can after you receive the gift so that the sender knows it was received. However, your wedding is so soon that you could wait until after, if you are planning to do some sort of thank-you with photos that you'd like them to have.

     
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    Mermaid1082    September 4, 2010   St Louis, MO

    Send a ntoe now.  They want to know you got the gift, if nothing else.

     
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    Ms. Caniche    September 18, 2010   Orange County, CA

    I received our first gift a few days ago!  It was the most expensive thing on our registry.  I was shocked!  It was our very great friends who gave us the gift and I want to let them know that we received it.  I was also not planning on sending any thank you's out until after the wedding.  Even for early gifts, but I didn't think we would receive a gift 3 months before!

    Any advice would help...

     
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    Candy_Nee    May 1, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    I was told not to send a thank you till after the wedding.  But, in an effort to save time and your hand, go ahead and write it and just send it afterward. That's what I did with all the gifts we received before the wedding.

     
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    whfields    June 3, 2010   wedding in Florida

    We waited until after the wedding and after our at home reception which is this weekend.  Postage can get expensive and we want to send thank you notes for people who attended our small DW wedding, for gifts, and for coming to the at home reception.  Plus we want to send wedding picture thank you notes, so we need to wait to get them back from our photographer anyway!

     
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    Jacqi    February 28, 2009  

    Well there seems to be no consensus :)

    I think since there are so few gifts already received, I'll just take a couple minutes to send a thank-you for the gift now, and then send another after the wedding (because we want to send pictures) and thank them for coming.

    Thanks for all the comments!

     

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