(Closed) Thank you notes for wedding gifts before the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Write the AS SOON AS POSSIBLE after you get them.  It’s perfectly fine to do so, and will save you much grief in the long run.

Post # 4
58 posts
Worker bee

I have this very same question!!!  Glad to see I’m not the only one! 

Post # 5
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Definitely do it as they come in! It makes life easier on you, but it also assures the gift-giver that you received their present. 🙂

Post # 6
140 posts
Blushing bee

i had the same question!  i looked online, and the rules seem to be that if you get a gift before the wedding, you have a max of 2 weeks to send the thank you note.  if the gift arrives at the wedding or post-wedding, you get 1-2 months after you return from your honeymoon. 

Post # 7
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I would write them out as soon as the gift arrives. Thinking from the gifters perspective I would find it awfully sweet to have gotten a thank you before the wedding for a gift thtat was given before the wedding. Plus it will be less hassel and less confusing to do that now. I’m sure the presents that are received before wedding sometimes don’t make it onto the same list for thank you notes as the ones received at the wedding.

Post # 9
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I just talked with my mom this weekend who send an extended family member a gift card (for shower) and substantial check (for wedding) about 3 mos ago.  The check has not been cashed and no thank you note has arrived for either one yet.  She is now  worried that they have been stolen.  So moral of the stroy, cash checks in a timely fashion and write thank you notes like Emily Post suggests.


Post # 10
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Get them out as things come in. That way you wont have to do them all in bulk. It will save you time and stress. 

Post # 11
95 posts
Worker bee

Yup, etiquette dictates you send them out immediately after getting the gift!

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