Post # 1
So FI and I wanted to send out thank you notes after our wedding with a photo from the wedding on them as is popular on Pinterest right now. But then I got to thinking about the gifts that we receive beforehand. My cousin who got married last Christmas did the photo Thank You card and sent it out for all of her gifts regardless of when they arrived. My mom and I sent our gifts a few months before the wedding and I know my mom was wondering when (if ever) she was going to get a thank you note. We’ve already received our first gift and FILs are planning an engagement party for us in September. I really don’t want to offend those people so I was considering finding a complementary thank you note that FI and I like and ordering a relatively small amount (say 50 for our guest list of 200) to cover gifts that come in well before the wedding and then just sending out the photo thank yous for the rest. I was wondering what all of your thoughts were.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
@luluvohn: I am amazed you thought of this beforehand. I didn’t realize this until i started getting gifts before the wedding and being unable to send out a picture thank you. I ended up just writing simple thank yous to those and will send a pic later.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I don’t know if this is 100% proper etiquette, but here’s what I’ve been doing:
For gifts received well before the wedding (1 month+ in advance), I’ve been sending an actual thank you note. I plan to follow up with a photo thank you postcard too.
For gifts received within ~3 weeks of the wedding, I’ve been sending a short email saying that we plan to send out proper thank you notes after the wedding, but I wanted to let them know that their package arrived and thanks so much for their generosity.
Post # 5
In my opinion, gifts received before the wedding should be sent a thank you immediately. It doesn’t matter if it’s a fancy photo one. It’s more important that it be timely. You also don’t need to send them a separate thank you after the wedding. No need to make more work for yourself.
Post # 6
In your case, I’d send a well thought out thank you card to anyone who sent the gifts before and those who didn’t would receive the photo thank you. I don’t think 2 separate TYs are necessary.
I’m not planning on having a very formal wedding myself though so I’d probably do something like@lolot: with a quick email acknowledging the gift, followed with the thank yous I wanted to send out after the wedding.