Post # 1
So our wedding is at the end of May, but some of my out of state family is really on the ball and knows they won’t be able to come. We’ve started to get gifts and I definitely want to send thank you’s. However, I was planning on having postcards printed with a wedding picture.
Do I send a thank you note now and not afterward?
Do I wait until I have the postcards (after the wedding) so they can see a picture?
Or should I do both, one now and one after? Would that be weird?
Post # 3
I would do both. I would send a thank you note now and just tell them how thankfully you are that you will have their kind thought and support with you on your special day. And then later send them a postcard. I wouldn’t find it odd, because the postcard doesn’t neccesarily have to be a thank you card and I know if I couldn’t make it, I would still want to see pictures.
Post # 4
I’m dealing with the same issue – I think I’ve decided (for now at least) that we’re going to send thank you’s now. I just finished all of my shower thank you’s and that took so long so if I can get a few pre-wedding thank you’s complete, it will be less pain on my hand.
I might change my mind though.
Post # 5
Either send now or do both but dont wait until after the wedding. People may think that you never received their gift if they dont get a thank you card.
Post # 6
Technically, wedding ettiquette says that you have up to 1 year to send thank you notes… You could to both, but I’d hold off and just send thank you’s with pictures and save yourself the postage on two 🙂
Post # 7
I heard the etiquette is to send out thank you cards for gifts received before the wedding two weeks after their arrival and thank you cards for gifts received at the wedding within 1-2 months after you get home from the honeymoon.
In my opinion, you definitely want to write a personal thank you to each person who gave you a gift (thank you for the….). However, it could be neat to include a postcard with some of your favorite pictures on it. Then, you could also send one of those postcards to people who received a thank you before the wedding. The postage & thank you cards/post cards might get kind of expensive, though.