Post # 1
how much time do you/will you let pass before sending thank you notes for shower/wedding gifts?
i heard from somewhere that for wedding gifts you have up to one full year. does that seem like a long time? i get annoyed if it’s longer than a month and i haven’t received one. i understand that some will be waiting for photo thank you’s that could take more time but a year?
what do you think is a reasonable amount of time?
personally, i had mine out within 5 days of the wedding including the vendors’ thank you’s. no, they weren’t preprinted, they were hand written and personalized for each guest. yes, i am that organized.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
I think a year is crazy. If I don’t have them out by three months after the wedding I will consider myself a failure. 😛 I had my shower on April 28th (your wedding date!) and sent all (50!) thank yous out this past weekend. Whew. It was time consuming but I’m glad they’re out the door.
Post # 4
Honestly, I write one the first chance I have to sit down and do it. Usually within a day.
I understand that as it gets closer and I have more gifts coming in, that won’t always be possible, but I was raised to believe that you write thank you notes immediately.
I know standard etiquette says you have months or something, but I think you take care of gratitude before you do anything else.
Post # 5
I think it’s a misconception that you have one year to send them. I believe it’s that you have one year to send a gift to a couple, but thank you’s should be written as you receive gifts.
Post # 6
As soon as I can. My guess is they will be mailed within a week or two. My shower invites we’re all done within a day. I try to send them asap so I can forget aboit them.
Post # 7
The “one year from the wedding” is how long guests have to send wedding gifts (after that it’s just a gift). From the etiquette books I’ve read you generally have 1-1.5 months from the day you return from your honeymoon to send gifts. Unless of course you take an extremely extended honeymoon (longer than a month), then you have 3 months from the wedding date or 1 month from when you return, whichever is sooner, to send thank yous.
EDIT: forgot to add, for gifts received at pre-wedding events, or just pre-wedding gifts randomly received before/after the wedding, you have 2-3 weeks to send thank you notes.
As a guest, I know I find it really annoying to spend time and money getting to the wedding, possibly having to buy a new dress, take the time to pick out a thoughtful gift for the couple, attending pre-wedding events, and then not getting a thank you card for months.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
One year is for the guests to send gifts, not for your thank yous.
Emily Post- “Each wedding gift should be acknowledged with a written note within three months of receipt of the gift. It’s best to write the notes as soon as possible after gifts arrive, however. Write a note even if you have thanked the giver in person.”
My goal is to get them out within a month- by Labor Day (6 weeks after the wedding) at the latest. I’m going to pre-address them as the RSVPs come in, to save time after the wedding.
Post # 9
i got a thank you card a year to the date after a wedding. no kidding. i forgot that i even attended their wedding.
i’m glad that most bees agree that within a few months is acceptable.
i have been to a few weddings where i haven’t even received a thank you for the gift. that’s just rude.
Post # 10
I had all of my thank yous in the mail by Monday ( I was married on a Saturday). It was not that difficult.
I feel the sooner you can get them done the better.