thank you question

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: when to send the thank you for early wedding gifts
    immediately - saves on the number to write later : (18 votes)
    60 %
    immediately - it's rude to wait : (10 votes)
    33 %
    with the rest of the thank yous after the wedding only if they're going to the wedding : (1 votes)
    3 %
    with the rest of the thank yous after the wedding regardless : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @ferdie224:  i’d send one right away, that’s what we’re doing. fewer thank you’s to send after!

    Post # 4
    3303 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve heard you send them right away, but we sent ours after.  We wanted to thank folks for travelling and attending and didn’t see sending two as necessary.


    Post # 5
    460 posts
    Helper bee

    I chose the first two options for ‘send it now’. It’s less to write later, and it lets the gifter know that you DID receive it, and will save any awkwardness later if they weren’t sure and wanted to ask you without putting you on the spot for not yet having sent a thank you for the gift.

    Maybe just keep an excel ‘registry’ for yourself of gifts you have received, from whom, and if/when you sent the thank you. It might help alleviate confusion after the wedding when it might be hard to remember who you did/did not send one to yet.

    Post # 6
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We waited to send them all after because we are using our wedding pictures as the thank you notes.

    Post # 7
    8677 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’d do it ASAP only so I wouldn’t forget.

    Post # 8
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I sent it right away so I wouldn’t forget and so I wouldn’t have to do so many later.

    Post # 9
    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We sent thank yous as they came in, to save time later. If they’re coming you can say something like “can’t wait to see you in September” and if they aren’t coming, “we’ll miss seeing you in September”. That’s what we did at least.

    Post # 10
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    If they came a month or more early, I sent a note.  The ones that come a couple weeks early, I’m sending a quick email to saying that we’ll be sending proper thank-yos after the wedding, but I wanted to let them know their gift arrived and THANKS!

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