- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
FI’s parents and siblings have not asked at all how they can help, have not offered to help with anything, and have certainly not spent any money for our wedding… despite living close to us.
My parents and siblings live in different cities and yet they are the ones helping me sort out logistics, put the decor together, set up the venue, etc. My mom especially has been going back and forth to our designer (for my gown and the entire bridal entourage) and doing errands on my behalf.
Here’s my question: Come wedding night and it’s time to acknowledge and thank people, I would definitely be thanking and honouring my family for their generosity and help, patience and understanding, hardwork and contribution to make the event a success. I know it’s not right not to say anything about FILs during our speech, but if they haven’t done anything wedding-related, I don’t wanna thank them just because I have to— that just belittles all the hardwork from my family and friends who really helped.
Also, any thoughts on having my mom and dad stand in the receiving line with me and FI (but not his parents)? I did not imply in the invitation that they’re hosting, but they certainly made huge though non-financial contributions to our wedding. And I’d like them to be honoured by standing beside us in greeting our guests.
Would appreciate your kind input. Thanks! 🙂