Post # 1
There was a thread on here a few weeks ago.. I cant even remember what the point of the OP was BUT. It talked about how much “we” hate “fat fingers” “muffin tops” “hairy knuckles” and “bad nails”.
I continuously find myself looking at my hand to see if it looks fat, muffin topped, hairy or my nails are off that day. We are taking pictures for our wedding tomorrow, and thats all I can think of…is how “funky” my hands look 🙁 It is ridiculous that some people can be so cruel. Especially when we all came here for help!
Then there is the added “I would never use a non-white stone” I had someone message me about why I wanted a black diamond…was it just because they are so cheap?
Let me be the first to say..First off thats flipping crazy ABSOULTLY rude. Second off… I BEGGED for a black diamond, and thirdly.. You my friend obviously havnt looked up natural, non-enhanced black diamond prices latley…
I guess the point of this vent is please remember that our words are forever! As I have now spent hours worrying due to this all…
Post # 3
@Djacks88: your hands and nails look beautiful. Not hairy, muffin topped, or strange at all! 😀
Post # 4
@Djacks88: You have NO finger muffin top, your nails are quite pretty, and your hands do not seem to resemble a hobbit’s 😉
As for the black diamond, if they cannot appreciate that exquisite stone, it is only because they have no imagination or appreciation for unique beauty!
Your wedding pics are gonna be awesome! You have lovely hands and bitches will be bitches. That girl probably started that thread because she has her own insecurities. It’s stupid but do not let it get you down!
Post # 5
@Djacks88: I genetically have hairy knuckles and therefore I wax. I don’t really care if someone finds it unattractive because I don’t really like it eaither. If someone hates that their fingers button over their ring then, whatever, that is their insecurity. I never do my nails and actually bit them all off the night before my wedding. Only you can let these things bother you.
I wanted a heart shaped ring and the ring we picked was chosen because it WAS cheaper! I think it is a fair assumption to think that someone who chose a stone other than a white diamond had the price tag in mind. If it was chosen for the style then that is all you need to say, “nah, price wasn’t an issue. I just really like the way they look on me!”
Everybody has opinions but only you can let those opinions ruin your own view.
Post # 6
@Djacks88: I think you have pretty fingers! And dont worry about other people’s mean opinions. Your ring is beautiful and all that matters is that you are happy with it!
Post # 8
The point was… That people take things personally! That we should watch our rude comments.
Post # 7
You went against your own point at the end of the post by defending your ring by saying it was expensive. Why should it matter at all? Isn’t that what you’re trying to say?
Other than that, don’t let people on a website, or in person, or in public, ever make you feel insecure about yourself because they’re insecure about themselves. And if you wind up insecure….don’t blame them. You are only as insecure as you allow yourself to be! Be happy knowing that petty things like finger hair, that EVERYONE HAS, don’t bug you, whereas other people apparently spend hours worrying about it.
Post # 9
@Djacks88: people say mean things on the internet, it isn’t the first time and it definitely won’t be the last. However, if you want to post/participate on a forum, you have to realize that these things will happen. This is one of the tamest forums I’ve ever seen, so if the posts here are too mean forums just might not be your thing.
Post # 10
@Djacks88: People in general are rude. But they get an added boast of confidence when they are speaking to people online without a “face”. Do not let anything that happens on this forum or ANYWHERE on the internet bother you to the point where you are worrying for hours. Seriously, life is too short and the only person you can please in life is yourself.
That PM to you was extremely rude but that thread about fingers was not directly directed at you so really just move on. As far as the PM, I would report it to the mods and move on.
Edit to add: Your ring is beautiful! I begged for a black diamond too but DH instead I could have one has a RHR but not an engagement ring. You are one lucky lady!
Post # 11
You let those comments bother you so much that it caused you hours of worry? I think you might be taking this forum a little too seriously.
Post # 12
Yes, I did worry about it. It was on and off my brain for the last few days. Im the bad guy for wanting everything about this whole ordeal to look ideal!
Post # 13
You have a lovely ring and a lovely hand but I do see your point.
The hairy knuckle threads always amuse me because I have always been a bit self conscious of body hair… including knuckles. I’m no hairy beast or anything, and my hair isn’t even all that dark, but I still periodically bleach my knuckle hair lol.
Post # 14
It would be great if everyone was nice on the internet…but this is the internet. I think people on Weddingbee are pretty good about calling people out when they’re being mean. As a general rule, I don’t think worrying about how your hands look is worth losing sleep over. We can’t all be hand models.
Post # 15
I don’t let the opinions of internet strangers dictate my daily activities or how I feel about my appearance. If someone really has a problem with my muffin top fingers and unpainted nails that are chipped, then that says more about them than it does about me.
Post # 16
If it makes you feel any better, I tried to grow my nails out so I can paint them for the ceremony and I took a chunk out of my pinky with them. Pretty hands just ain’t worth it. If I make another Bee faint from horror because I dare to leave the house without perfectly manicured nails, oh well.