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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    We just got one of those photo cards from a cousin's wedding we went to last month that said, "Thank you for the generous gift."  Then, it was signed their names.  How do you feel when you get thank you cards like that? 

     
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    ashleyjane    1/16/2010   Tampa, FL

    i feel.... underappreciated?

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I understand why people send those for sure.  There were only so many ways I could say thanks for the money and what we are going to do with it.  That being said, I still like getting a hand written card.

     
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    otb    December 31, 2009   Chicago, IL

    I kind of like them.  I was in a wedding last year, and the bride did them.  I thought what a time saver!  But when I thought about doing them for my own, my mom told me that my dad thought that was incredibly rude.  So I won't be doing those, but I am thinking of doing a picture card, or just including a picture with the thank you note.

     
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    DaisyBride    June 1, 2009  

    Thats all it said?!?!  Wow!  Was it at least hand written?

    If it was possible to completly get rid of thank you cards, I'd be all for it.  I'm thrilled to be finished writing them and I would be fine with never receiving one in the future if that was culturally normal.  However, they are expected these days and It's pretty lame that she didn't even attempt to personalize it a little more with your name, or possibility a reference to seeing you at the wedding!

    Oh, and BTW, this makes me feel slightly better about how long (almost 4 months eek!!) it took to get mine out, at least they were all written out with gift comments etc :)

     
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    AnnieAAA    October 25, 2009   Dallas, TX

    Before being a bride, I honestly don't think I would care. But now that I've been one and handwrote all my thank you notes, giving specific thanks to individuals gifts, I feel different. I now think that taking the time to do that is very important :)

     
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    Blondiebee    October 9, 2009  

    Ok I went ALL OUT on my Housewarming thank you's and Bridal Shower thankyou's...like rediculously personalized and cute. So for my wedding we created a beautiful photo card of 5 or so photo's of our wedding on the front and honeymoon on the back and had a basic "Thankyou for your very generous gift" Then we posted a link to our photo's on the back and our youtube dance. They are beautiful and I love them. I think it was ok for us to do that since I went all out on the others. I even threw in personal photo's in the bridal shower thank you cards. : )

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    Yup, that's ALL it said!  And no, it wasn't handwritten, it was printed on from whatever photo place they got the cards at.  I wouldn't have paid attention to it before I had my wedding, and it's great they got them out so quickly.  BUT, since I've been a bride, I think about how I took the time to personalize every single one I did and that's why it took so long...just wanted to make people feel appreciated.  Shoot, I even handwrote one for them even though they were too cheap to get us a wedding gift and they just added their names to his parents card & gift!

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Well... at least they got them out. ;)

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I think "underappreciated" is a good word.  I feel like a TY like that is just a matter of getting it done, rather than really recognizing what the person has given you.  Like you Lillindy, I really tried to personalize the notes I wrote, so that the people really knew what I thought of their gift and their presence at the wedding.

     
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    eeniebeans    October 9, 2010   Baltimore

    I feel like - are you not sure what I gave you?

     

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