Thank yous for the engagement party?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
384 posts
Helper bee

@Anna10-05-2014:  So at my engagement party, I did not give anything to my mom. Just a big I love you and a hug. I sent out my thank you cards the Monday after (I wrote them all on Sunday). We didn’t have a sign in sheet but most people got us a gift and I wrote thank you cards off of gifts/cards that we recieved. Also I looked over our guest list and made sure that I had everyone. It was a great experience and I loved every second of it. Enjoy this weekend!

Post # 5
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I got my mom and my aunt both pedicure gift certificates and cards, but we’re big on gifts in my family.

I wrote thank you notes to everyone who brought a gift or a card!

Post # 6
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

FH and I threw our own e-party (is that a no-no? meh) but we sent thank-you notes to everyone who gave us a card/gift. Our parents helped a lot with the set-up, keeping things flowing, etc, so we were sure to include that in the thank-you notes.

Enjoy your party!

Post # 7
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Anna10-05-2014:  Ooo good question .. What if your friends/family/wedding party threw you an surpirse engagement party? It was at a bar but still with all of our friends there? My mom & dad and my friend got us a gift that I said thank you to both of them like a million times but no one else (which I didn’t even expect a gift from either of them or anyone!) .. But should I write out thank you’s? Mind you, it was at a local bar and it was $20 all you can drink kind-of-party. Needless to say it was amazing, we walked in with my FI’s best man (who was part of the the party throwing committe)  and it was the best feeling in the world .. My FI and I kept saying to each other omg we can’t believe how amazing our friends are and we couldn’t believe the party was for us. It was awesome!

But now you have me thinking lol, should I write thank you’s?

Post # 8
1644 posts
Bumble bee

@leannteresa1:  Any time you find yourself overwhelmed with appreciation for someone else, you can write them a short note telling them so. Etiquette does not demand it: thank-you notes are only obligatory for gifts from the gift-recipient to the giver, and for hospitality from the guest to the host. If you do not live with your parents, then yes you actually are obliged to send a thank-you note to them as your hosts.

But obligation and etiquette are far from the only reason for sending notes. The world is a nicer place to live in when people feel appreciated and are willing to show appreciation themselves. So feel free to write notes!

Post # 9
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would only send out thank yous to people who gave you a gift or cash.   And you should do it as soon as you can after the party. I wrote mine the next morning and popped them in the mail. Done. I also wrote a thank you card to the host, as they were friends of my parents. They did not get me a gift but they threw a great party and bought all the food, booze — that’s way more than a gift! If my mom threw the party for me, I would do something more than a card: Treat her to a mani/pedi or a massage?

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