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We are at the stage where we are starting to have some gifts delivered to us - we decided to open gifts as they come, though I have no idea what the etiquette is on that. My question is, the thank you notes are obviously coming from me, due to the handwriting and the fact that so far the gifts we've gotten are from my family. Do I sign them "ES and FI"? It seems silly to add him on when it's obviously from me, but also rude not to add him. He did, in fact, help pick some things out, and eventually we will have gifts from his family which I imagine I will write the thank you notes for, and they are from both of us. I guess it just seems disingenuine to add his name, almost as an afterthought.

They are wedding gifts for the wedding of the two of you ... definitely put his name on the thank you. You should also be using the pronouns we and our. 

Typically you sign only your name for the shower gifts because it is a bridal shower -- showering the bride, but wedding gifts are for the couple therefore the thank you should come from the couple.

You should get him to write a couple of them!  Especially to his closest family and friends!!

@Mrs. Spring -- Isn't it considered bad ettiquette/bad luck to use your married last name together before the wedding?  

I would sign it from both of you. All of the thank you cards I've received from weddings were written by the bride and signed with both names.  The only difference is if it was a shower gift, in which case it was only from the bride. 

I agree, I would sign both of your names, and like Humarock said, have your FI write out some too, the gifts are for both of you. If his handwriting is atrocious (like Mr. H's...lol), then you could write them out & have him do the signatures...ie: Love, John & Julie.

I was actually just reading Emily Post for work the other day (random, yes).  She says that thank you notes are written by one person.  Open with something like "John and I absolutely love the _____, and we are looking forward to using it after the wedding.  We are looking forward to seeing you and celebrating with you at the end of the month.  Love, Julie"

Or...if you don't feel like following Emily Post on this one, an alternative would be to word your thank you so that it was from both of you...Thank you so much for the ____.  We are both looking forward to using it., etc....then you can sign it from both of you.  (except for a shower gift).  I mean, no one is going to expect you both to write the note at the same time by sharing a pen, right?

Yes, since a shower is thrown for the bride, even though technically the gifts are for both of you, shower thank you's should be signed only by you.