(Closed) Thank Yous for Wedding Gifts Before the Wedding

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Etiquette typically suggests that you open the gifts before the wedding and send a thank you no later than two weeks after receiving the gift. However, do not USE the gifts until after the wedding. Guests who sent a gift early need to know that you received it and that there is nothing wrong with their gift 🙂

Post # 4
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1205 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not sure about the rules, but I know I like to know that a gift arrived safely.  Maybe send a quick note or even e-mail saying the gift arrived safely. 

Are you supposed to open them before the wedding???  If not you could say – I’m sure we’ll love it and can’t wait to see you at / we’re sorry you can’t make it to – the wedding.

Otherwise, I’m sure a thank you after the wedding would be fine – write it now, send it later to save time.

Post # 5
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

i heard you were supposed to open it because your wedding gift thank yous have to be descriptive (e.g. "thanks so much for the crock pot, it will change my life forever…"). I’m sure there’s a way to write two thank you notes – maybe one that says "we’re waiting until the big day!". i dunno, i think its fun to open them as you get them! you will have SO MUCH TO OPEN after the wedding.

Post # 6
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

YOu’re supposed to open them asap but not use them til after the wedding. I describe what I got and if it was a gift card, I mention something I want to use it for. IE we get lots of Lowes cards and I comment on how I can’t WAIT to redo the living room and paint it a gorgeous warm taupe, etc.

I am doing personalized stationary from shutterfly with wedding pics on it for the post-wedding thank you cards, but i went to hallmark and bought a pack of 10 thank you cards that have an "S" on it for my FI’s and I’s last name just for the interim. 

Post # 7
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Start saying your thank yous now!  This little bit of ettiquete is a blessing in disguise since youll have a million and two to write AFTER the wedding – these you can get done now, meaning less for later!

Post # 8
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2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

this was good to know!  I was about to ask the same questions because we’ve gotten three gifts post showers, pre wedding, and I wasn’t sure if I should wait to send thank you notes!  

We aren’t doing photo thank you notes, so I can probably write them soon, before the wedding and save myself writing a couple later on. 

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