Post # 1
yay or nay?
What did you do and what were your reasons. Just wondering.
Some people came to our wedding and did not give us anything, did not participate or sign our wishing tree, etc. I honestly don’t know what the card would say since this was family we did not want there, but invited anyway and they lived up to their reputation by acting completely aloof to us at the wedding. :/ Thoughts?
Post # 3
Yes, you send them a thank you card for them attending
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Take the high road and thank them for attending.
Post # 5
“Thank you so much for attending our wedding” is the nice thing to say.
Post # 6
I didn’t send a thank you to anyone that didn’t give a gift (there were only a few).
Post # 7
Its not necessary to send a thank you card for attending your wedding, and it could potentially come across as though you are fishing for a gift.
ETA: Our wedding favors included a tag that thanked people for sharing our day with us, and we thanked people in person at the wedding.
Post # 8
Definitely thank them for attending. Maybe it’ll make them feel guilty.
Post # 9
We are still sending them a “thank you for celebrating our special day with us” type card to the people who came giftless and or cardless.
Post # 10
We had a few folks (mostly friends of DH’s who came alone, don’t make much money and traveled to be there) who didn’t give gifts, which I understand. We plan to send them our photo card with a “thank you for attending”.
Post # 11
@reebee: agree. I think this is why fH and I are debating whether to say anything at all.
we have a week or so to figure it out, my main issue is that nothing we can say that is nice would be true. Are we glad they attended? no. :/
Post # 12
Definitely thank them! In our culture, we don’t send out thank you cards. LOL so it was so new to me to see the Traditional American way, per say.
Post # 13
“Thank you for living up to our expectations and being aloof the entire wedding. We hope you enjoyed the food!” Of course don’t listen to me. That’s just what you should write if you feel like starting a war. Oh, the things I think up when I should be napping…
Post # 14
I sent thank you cards to everyone who attended. It wouldn’t have been a party if people did not show up. It truly meant a great deal to me to have family and friends I love there to celebrate with me. They took time from their day to enjoy it with me and that matters.
Gift or not, I was thrilled for each and every person to be there and I want them to know that.
Post # 15
We had two people who didn’t give us gifts at our wedding (neighbor and my husband’s boss) so I simply told them thanks for spending our special day with us. My Darling Husband and I found it odd that they hadn’t given us a gift, but we were still thankful that they came to our wedding! Within two weeks, we had gift cards/money from both of them. They said they had just forgot.
It is my opinion that you should always thank somebody for attending, whether they gave a gift or not.
Post # 16
You might feel bad if you don’t send a card (or worse, say something rude! Not that you would do that, but some would…), and then a gift shows up the next day or something. Things happen, gifts get left in the car, things go out in the mail late. You never know!