Post # 1
I wrote out and sent my thank you’s for our October wedding about three weeks after the wedding. I used the list my sister complied as we opened our wedding gifts & cards. Done and done. Right?
Well, I’m not sure. We received two gifts from people in the last couple of weeks with apologies for not giving us gifts at the wedding. We were astonished! We had no idea certain people hadn’t given us gifts. Obviously, the recent gifts were much appreciated and I sent out their thank you’s right away as well.
But now I’m thinking, what if other’s didn’t give gifts/cards and therefore, we didn’t send a thankyou? Should I go back and refer to our guest list and gift list and see if there are any people not on both so we can make sure we send a ty? Obviously we appreciate everyone for coming (with or without gift!) but I always naively thought you send tys to those on your gift list?
Is that horrible/rude/wrong of me?? What did you do?
Post # 3
And let me add that as I sit here thinking about it, I am certain all of the guests who traveled from out of town also received thank yous.
Post # 4
As far as I know you only send thank you’s that gave gifts/cards. This may differ if you are having a Destination Wedding or something then you likely thank everyone who attended.
Post # 5
Generally, I think you only give thank yous to those who gave a card/gift. I did also send TY’s to those who traveled from far Out of Town though, since the majority of my family is Out of Town and not very well off, so it was a really big deal to me that they made sacrifices to come to our wedding.
Post # 6
You do not need to send thank you notes to guests for attending your wedding.
From Emily Post:
“Who needs a note?
- Anyone who gives you an engagement, shower or wedding gift, even if you have thanked them in person. Individual notes should be written to people who contributed to a group gift.
- Anyone who gives a gift of money: cash, checks, contributions to savings accounts and donations to charities. Mentioning the amount is optional, but it does let the person know the correct amount was received. You should mention what you plan to do with the money.
- Your attendants. A warm personal note attached to your gifts to your attendants will let them know how much you appreciate their efforts and support on your behalf.
- Anyone who hosted a party or shower for you. Ideally these notes should be written within two days of the event. Each host or hostess should be thanked individually with a note and a thank you gift.
- People who house or entertain your wedding guests. A note and a small gift should be sent to anyone who houses or entertains out-of-town wedding guests.
- People who do kindnesses for you. The neighbor who accepts delivery of your gifts when you are at work; the cousin who supervises the parking at the reception – anyone who assists you before, during or after your wedding.
- Suppliers and vendors. You don’t have to write everyone you hire for services, but anyone who exceeds your expectations will appreciate a courteous note of thanks.
- Your parents or whoever is hosting your wedding. “
Post # 7
ahhh, sigh of relief! Thanks Julies!