(Closed) Thanks a lot RUM… you broke my filter!!!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@katie8759:  +1 on the contacts and fake nails comment

Post # 4
12250 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That sounds like a ROUGH night! I’m so sorry!

Post # 5
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@katie8759:  Sister, we’ve been together 2 years and if i had a nickel for every time I thought i’d “blown” it I wouldnt be stressing out our overtime at work getting cut.

More times than i’d care to admit, i’ve either been tipsy or just mouthy (yes, “sh*t or get off the pot” is in my repertoire too) and was sure i’d “ruined EVERYTHING”, but when things had cooled down and I’d asked he’d just laughed and said “no, you didnt ruin anything. I know you’re just excited. just stop bringing it up so you dont ruin your suprise!”

I dont think you’ve blown it. Just my two cents 🙂

Post # 7
482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@katie8759:  that’s awesome! I would feel soooo much better now! 🙂 yay

Post # 8
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@katie8759:  I’m sorry you feel this way.  Sounds like a rough night.  

One thing my SO told me when I was uneasy talking about marriage stuff a few months ago was that while he was very interested in what I had to say, almost nothing that I could say would change the fact that he wanted to marry me – maybe not right this second, but eventually.  He had already made up his mind, he wouldnt change it because of a few stupid comments (liqueur induced or not).  The point I’m trying to make is that I highly doubt you’ve just ruined the future of your relationship.  

As far as the pressure thing.  I think there’s a big difference between communicating how you feel and pressuring someone.  I think you can definitely accomplish the former without veering into pressure or ultimatums.  

Hope that helps and I wish you luck in resolving this.

Post # 9
3028 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@badabing88:  +1

Part of me was slack jaw reading your post and a larger part was glad you were assertive.  


I get annoyed as hell when I see a ton of “waiting” posts about how it’s been X years or he is now graduated, his best friend got married, I hoped when we went on that cruise, I thought on our anniversary, he bent down to tie his shoe and I thought…but they never talk about marriage.  Like their SO is suppose to guess that a .75 ctw Tiffany soliare is what you have been dreaming about or that you are ready for marriage because you in your lady head you meet all these goals already and dude is sitting on the couch while you have fake pinterst boards and secret WB accounts!


okay that was my rant! Glad you are assertive and he knows you won’t be saying no!

Post # 10
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@katie8759:  You probably didn’t screw it up.. and if that’s all it takes to scare him off, good riddance and you can do much better!

I think they SHOULD feel pressure. I don’t think any guy should feel so comfortable that he thinks you’ll wait around forever for him to pop the question. If marriage is what you want, and he won’t go through with it, then you two might love each other but won’t be able to build a successful life together. I think putting a little fire under his butt to let him know you won’t wait around together is a very good thing!


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