Post # 1
I have a wonderful husband that surprised me several times a year with flowers. I love flowers and I especially love that he buys me flowers (none of the ex’s ever bought flowers). However, I don’t like his taste in flowers. He just sent me lilies and I don’t like lilies. I don’t think they are pretty (my opinion only) and the pollen gets on everything. And this is the 2nd time he’s gotten me lilies and I gently told him last time that I don’t like lilies. He even got me this crazy Strawberry Margarita bouquet once–which I don’t understand because I don’t even drink much.
I’ve told him I love Gerbera Daisies. But I haven’t gotten any of those. I’ve even circled flower catalogs to give him the hint of what I liked. It’s like his taste in flowers is steadily gotten worse the longer we are together.
But when I gently try to tell him that I prefer other flowers (usually weeks after I’ve received them and shown him how happy and grateful I am), his feelings get hurt. I know I sound awful, but I don’t want him to keep spending $50-$100 on stuff I don’t like.
So do I suck it up and pretend I’m all rainbows and unicorns about it or do I say something (eventually, not now, maybe in a few weeks)? And if I say something, how can I say it without making him feel bad?
I wish I could just send him an Amazon Flower wish list!
Post # 3
Do you know what florist he uses? I’d call them and explain your situation. I would think they can note your likes and dislikes in their records and “guide” him in his choices.
Post # 4
@Neva: He uses Pro-flowers and 1-800-Flowers, so I don’t think I can do that.
Post # 5
@Neva: That’s a good idea. I usually stop at the floral section in the grocery store and look at flowers and then tell SO how much I love a certain flower. Works for him =)
Post # 6
Would he be offended if you gave him a list of flowers that you do like?
Post # 7
I agree with Neva in the calling the flourist. You already told him so there’s not a lot you can do other than continously pointing out the flowers you like.
Being honest if it was me I’d suck it up, but that’s me. Maybe you can tell him how inconvenient you think lilies are becaus eof the pollen.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park
Lillies kill me because of the sweet odor, and I know if Mr CP got me lillies I’d say something, but gently, about my preferences. Of course, I’d also thank him, too! It’s the thought that counts.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t say anything. It’s nice that he’s thoughtful enough to get you flowers.
Post # 10
Besides giving him hint like you are doing or buying flowers you like for the house, I would just suck it up. It’s just his very sweer way of saying he is thinking of you.
Post # 11
Do you ever buy flowers? Maybe if once and a while you brought home a bouqet, he’d learn your tastes…. like, “I picked up these gerber daisies at Whole Foods, don’t you love how they brighten up the room?”
Post # 12
Honestly, I’d suck it up and wouldn’t say anything. All flowers look pretty and make you feel special, whether they are your favorite bloom or not.
Maybe pick up some Gerbera daisies at the grocery every once in a while though and put them out. Maybe if he see them in the house and you enjoying them, he’ll think of them the next time he orders flowers.
Post # 13
Tell them they are messing with your allergies, and you cant have them in the office/home! LOL And if the circling still doesnt work, I’d start folding, tabbing and highlighting things! lol Some men need GUIDANCE! Sweet of him to send you flowers though!
Post # 14
I would just appreciate his thoughtfulness. When people get crticized for their choice in gifts, they may just stop giving them.
As for the pollen problem with lilies, it is common practice to pinch out the stamens. It also removes most of the sweet smell if that bothers you.
Post # 15
I wouldnt complain too much. My husband bought me flowers recently and it was seriously the weirdest bouquet ever, And he knows what type of flowers I like because we talked about it so much during the wedding planning and my wedding bouquet is currenly in a glass case in the living room as a big clue.. he still bought me ugy flowers but I was happy regardless because it was a nice and thoughtful gesture
Post # 16
I voted “suck it up.” It’s a nice gesture and that is what matters.