Thanksgiving Debate: Stay home for DH or leave town to see family?

posted 4 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Have you talked to your husband about it? What are his thoughts?

I know that if it were me and it was reversed, I would want my husband to go spend time with his family. Why not stay home until he has to go to work and then leave to spend time with your family? Two hours is a manageable drive! 🙂 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

I agree with @weatherbug! Spend the morning with his family and then drive to spend the afternoon/day with yours! Best of both worlds! 🙂 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

What I would do is probably spend the morning with him and then head to my families around noon. That way you are still spending the holiday with him but you also get to see your family.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would probably spend the morning with him, then go have supper with your family, spend the night, and come home early (with leftovers!) so he can have a day after Thanksgiving feast when he wakes up. 

My family also lives about two hours from us and I’d do the same.  Or sit around feeling sorry for myself with pumpkin ice cream.  Tough call, actually.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@Lana_Rose:  I would for sure plan to stay home until DH goes to work. Will you know before that if he will have to work the 2nd shift?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You shouldn’t feel bad spending a holiday with your family without him, why should you sit at home alone while he is stuck at work?  Have a nice breakfast/brunch together in the morning then head off to see your family when he goes to work.  Not really a big deal.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d first ask my husband. But it’s likely that he doesn’t want you to sit in an empty house while he’s at work. Second, I’d just drive over, have dinner, and come back in time to greet him at home and bring him some leftovers from your parents. A two hour drive is short enough to go for just the evening even though it might not be ideal/.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think what you’re having a problem with isn’t so much how to split the time between his family and yours but coming to terms with being alone now that you’re married.

Yes youre a unit, but this is YOUR family that you spent a lot of holidays alone with before DH ever came into the picture, I’m sure. Don’t lose your identity or ability to do things on your own just because you’re married now.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

yes, you’re making too big of a deal out of it. and yes I would go. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Lana_Rose:  I agree with PP – spend that morning together (maybe have a big home cooked breakfast or something 🙂 and then go spend the rest of the day with your family. Sorry you guys have to spend the holidays apart!! 🙁

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