Thanksgiving Guests..When to Let Us Know?

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d prod a little.  It is hard to know in advance sometimes, but if they are making travel plans they should know.

Something like a text with “Hey mom, I’m just out getting getting some stuff to freshen up the guest room.  Want to make sure we have it all cleaned out in time if you guys are coming – do you have plans yet?” 

Make it sound a little bit like if they decide at the last minute that it will really put you out.  Since, you know, it would.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsD41503:  Oh damn – I was thinking more along the lines of my guest room that has my off-season clothes and craft supplies in it that I have to “clean out” before we have guests over.  Yeah – that’s a major undertaking you have to be prepared for!  You definitely don’t need to be grocery shopping with all the crazies at 11pm the night before Thanksgiving.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MrsD41503:  well I’d say they have to let you know by last night because that’s when I made SO call his sister and harass her for a definitive answer :-P. we usually do my cousins on dad’s side on Thursday and mom’s side on Friday. I was going to skip dad’s and host SO’s family but his sisters are both divorced and there are five kids and three dads between them so they sometimes have trouble coordinating holiday schedules. it didn’t work out so I guess I’m not hosting. Bummer but we will try for Christmas. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would tell your FH to call her and get a final answer because you need to plan on how much food to provide. You would like to do your big shopping trip on *pick a date* so you need a final answer (and a final number) by *pick a date*.

It isn’t unreasonable to get an answer a few weeks beforehand, but I always let FH take the lead with his family and I take the lead with mine. If he doesn’t get an answer, I would put the ownus on him to cook and prepare for the festivities.

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