Thanksgiving with brand-new baby? Help!

posted 3 years ago in Babies
  • poll: What should we do for thanksgiving--with a week old baby!
    Host everyone in our home in Fort Worth (with help) : (22 votes)
    42 %
    Travel to our in-laws 35 min away : (5 votes)
    9 %
    Stay home altogether : (25 votes)
    47 %
    Another option below : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I think that you should host it at your home an have people help you by potlucking it. I think since this is the first time since your mom passed having Thanksgiving that your SIL should be understanding of why you and your brother would like to keep up the tradition you had, even I it looks a little different now.

    Post # 4
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    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    So I am a little confused are the options

    1. have your brother and sil host at your mom’s like usual

    2. host at your house with some relatives not coming and your ILs attending

    3. not celebrate at all this year.

     Out of all these options I would host at your mother’s like usual and just have everyone help out instead of you cooking. I understand it will be easier for you (I had my third baby 4 days before Christmas last year) to host, but if it means that your family won’t all get together I would make every attempt to make it convenient for the majority of the people.

    ETA: It would be a shame if you planned on hosting and then you went late or were still in the hospital and would be unable to host and your family was left last minute scrambling for a back up plan.

     

     

     

    Post # 5
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    9949 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Host it in your home.  With a new baby you’ll want to be close so you don’t have to worry about forgetting something.  Ask your relatives to help cook dinner.  Please don’t order Cracker Barrel on Thanksgiving!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Post # 9
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    9949 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Miss Damask:  If you do it at home, your husband could make “mini thanksgiving”.  I did this once for my husband (he was my boyfriend at the time).  I roasted cornish hens stuffed with stuffing I bought from the Amish at the market (so whatever prepared stuffing you can get works), made little pies, and then sweet potatoes and brussels sprouts as vegetables.  It was awesome and delicious, and just the right amount for the two of us.

    Post # 10
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    42538 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would definitely plan to stay at home. Whether you are still pregnant, or a new Mom, chances are you are not going to feel up to hosting large numbers of people. I know you said it coud be potluck, but the reality is that they will be coming to you with so many questions that you will be  getting up all the time to find things, explain things etc etc.

    Honestly, I would plan a first Thanksgiving at home for the three of you.

    Post # 11
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    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I wouldn’t plan anything. You may have a brand new baby, or you may still be pregnant, or you may be in labor. Let other people plan, and if you have the baby by that time you can go wherever you want or stay home and celebrate with your husband

    Post # 13
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    3377 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @Miss Damask:  It’s just one holiday and this same one comes every year. If it were me, I’d not make ANY obligations for the holiday.

    With a brand new baby (is this your first?) I wouldn’t be counting on hosting anything.

    Even with potluck or meal ordered in, you still have to clean the house, set up tables, dishes, cutlery, take care of leftovers, etc. 

    If someone else 35 minutes away will host it, that would be fine with me becuase maybe I would make that trip, maybe I would not. If the baby didn’t, for instance, sleep at all the night before, would you want to do any of this? I would decide the day of the event what to do.

    Keep your options open and don’t lock yourself into anything. The baby will trump any plan you’ve made.

    When people ask what you are goign to do for the holidays, smile and say that you are keeping option open, the new baby will decide what happens that day. Please don’t make the mistake of letting your family “pressure” you and keep in mind that if they ask questions about your plans, they are just questions. YOu aren’t obligated to provide and step by step plan of how you will be spending the day.

     

     

    Post # 14
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    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Honestly, I would probably stay home with jus tmy DH.  No way I’d want a bunch of people in my home right after having a baby.  Even if you potluck it, you still need to prepare the house for guests and I can’t imagine you will feel like doing that.  You’re going to be exhausted.  I’d leave the option open to travel 30 minutes to your in laws if you’re feeling up to it.

    Post # 15
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    2884 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    is this your first baby? bear in mind its not uncommon for babies to arrive a week late, i wouldnt make any plans dependent on you doing stuff

    id honestly keep it just your husband  you and the baby. i think you’ll be more tired than you anticipate and hosting is going to be a big effort. plus with all the aches and pains…….mmm no. even with family, having people in your house requires hosting them to a degree

    Post # 16
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    6644 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Well let me tell you I was in the same boat almost 2 years ago.  My little boy was due the 14th.   Normally my SIL hosts or we go to ND for Thanksgiving. I had said no way going anywhere with a new born. Well little boy had other plans he was born 7 weeks early. 

    We held thanksgiving here that year. I felt more comfortable with being here with a newborn than going anywhere else. (We never had hosted before or even cooked a turkey) Well worth it being home in your own envirnoment. 

    I highly advise it. 

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