- Miss Damask
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2010
Hello all! For my entire life, my mom has hosted Thanksgiving at our home in San Antonio for immediate family and extended family–about 20 people usually. Even after I got married and my brother got married, we do Thanksgiving with my family and Christmas on the day with the SO’s families. My mom passed away two years ago, and so for about the last three years, I have hosted thanksgiving in my parent’s home–turkey, all the food, etc. It’s a big holiday for my family and one of the few times we get to see everyone (we used to get together a lot more during the year, but not so much now). Some family even flies in from Florida for the holiday.
So now, I’m due November 13 with our first. We live in Fort Worth, about 5 hours from San Antonio. After talking with my husband, we’ve decided to stay in DFW for the holiday – we have to go to SA for my littlest brother’s college grad Dec 15 and that’s as early as I would like to travel. My in-laws live 35 minutes away. Husband and I would like to have thanksgiving in our home in FW, and my brother’s wife and my in-laws have said they’ll help with the hosting. We have said we’ll provide the house if we can potluck the meal or even just order Cracker Barrel. I would rather have people over to our house where i can go to my own space to nurse or rest rather than drive to my in-laws if they host.
My husband and I have get togethers at least monthly with my in-laws and extended family up here. We have put on get togethers with no warning after having just gotten back in town or whatever–it’s pretty easy going. I feel like I’d be more comfortable hosting rather than packing everything up to go somewhere else, but several people in my family are suggesting otherwise. They are worried we won’t want people over.
My brother’s wife said they might want to host Thanksgiving in San Antonio without us. It breaks my heart actually, but maybe that’s the right thing to do? He’s never participated in any of the preparations(and doesn’t even know how to cook), but if that’s what he wants, maybe it’s best. His wife is also suggesting the two of them just go to her family’s in Houston instead. Also, my brother might be just deployed or shipped somewhere far away that month–he’s due to be transferred in November.
Some of my extended family is willing to come up here for the holiday if we decide to host. If it was another holiday like Easter, I would just stay home with us three, but Thanksgiving is a really big deal to me–and to my family. Bottom line–if we don’t host, the get together will most likely not happen at all, and my brother is worried it’ll never happen again somehow. I’m not trying to brag at all, but my mom is the one that organized it. If she didn’t do it, it didn’t happen. Now that she’s gone, we’re trying to keep that tradition alive because it really means a lot to some of us.
What do y’all think? Sorry for the long post, I just wanted to give you the back story. I’d love to hear y’all’s thoughts.