Post # 1
I’ve posted on here before about this. I mentioned to 2 seperate highschool friends who I hardly keep in contact with and vice versa that they should come to my wedding. We were good friends at highschool but I moved away and we hardly keep in contact but still get along well enough. So i told them about the wedding about a year ago and they both seemed keen to come. The awkward part is – i just dont want them there anymore. I am always the one to stay in contact with them and even that can sometimes be a mission. I feel as if I’m that annoying kid at school following them around haha! I ust imagine our wedding day to be filled with family and close friends.
I know, I made a mistake in mentioning it to them. And yes I realise its bad ettiquette to uninvite someone. I’ve already had bees tell me to take responsibility for my mistake and invite them anyway. But I think I’m going to do it my way, bad ettiquette and all.
I am just trying desperately to think of ways to let them know that I wont be inviting them anymore. I thought perhaps I could say we’ve had to cut down the number of guests due to space? Any suggestions?
Post # 3
@Sarahbear: When was the last time you spoken with them? If it has been awhile then they shouldn’t be surprised to not be getting a formal invitation.
Post # 4
I would just not send an invitation. If they don’t initiate contact with you anyway, you probably won’t hear from them about it.
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Post # 6
Ditto with what PP.
When we were first engaged, we attended FI’s cousin’s wedding and true to form, a ton of people mobbed us and were hinting (blatantly) about invitations. At that point in time, we didn’t even have a time frame or anything nailed down so we did the whole “Oh of course, hahahahaha” thing. Did we invite any of those people? No. If they ask/if we ever see these people again, it was a small, intimate wedding (which it is). To be fair, these “invitations” were extended well over a year ago.
Post # 7
Did you send a STD to them? If so, you really should invite them still. If not, it doesn’t matter in my opinion
Post # 8
So the only “invitation” was just word of mouth? A year and a half before the wedding? I’d let it slide and wait to see if they said anything about it to you.
Post # 9
@MrsWBS: Didnt send them a STD, phew!
@Natalieh86: And yes, I have only mentioned the wedding to them.
The last time I spoke to one of them was actually only the other day (via facebook ofc). Just Hi how are you. He responded, I responded and then nothing. Pfft, what am I even worried about?!
Post # 10
I really wouldn’t worry about it. The same thing happened to me. How akward is it when someone you hardly know or talk to anymore mention getting an invitation? Uggh. People.
I don’t really want to spend my wedding trying to catch up with people I haven’t seen in 5 years.
Post # 11
Yeah…if you didn’t send them a STD, just don’t send them an invite & be done with it.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t do anything. Especially if you are always the one initiating contact, not inviting them shouldn’t be an issue. If they ask you about it later, just explain that you decided to go with a more intimate event. Good luck!
Post # 13
I agree with many other posters, if there wasn’t an STD sent out, I wouldn’t worry about it! I have done the same thing with some nosy neighbours of my parents who hinted they were going to “crash” my wedding… how do you answer that?! lol. I just said, “oh yeah, hah, sure, whatever” but am NOT planning on inviting them to the ceremony and dinner. If they want to crash after the dinner I don’t really care, but they are not getting formal invites from me! Do what you gotta do, girl!
Post # 14
I wouldn’t send an invite. Maybe just invite them to the dance. My wedding is August 4th and just had a friend who I haven’t talked to in about two years ask about my wedding. The last time I saw her I wasn’t engaged yet…..I might have to blog about that 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 15
@adehn: About 80% of my guests are from out of town, including these two friends. In fact, one lives in a different country. Its a cheap flight from Australia to New Zealand but still… no dance for them! I’ve decided to just flag inviting them 🙂 i feel much better!