Post # 1
So I know I shouldn’t be jealous and in the grand scheme of things, I know it’s not a big deal, but cue “whiny child voice” now…my sister gets to go to Tahiti and Bora Bora for 11 nights for her honeymoon while we could barely afford a 3 night stay in our own home state for our honeymoon! *WHINE* I have no idea how they are paying for it (none of my business, I know) but they are both grad students! Ever feel that life is just not fair sometimes? SIGH! So bees, anything that you are irrationally jealous about this morning?
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
Aww, I can empathize over being jealous about a “glamorous” trip but hey, you still got to honeymoon with your husband and, in a few years, maybe you’ll be able to spend 15 days in Tahiti and Bora Bora, eh? 🙂
Also, regarding what you said about your sister, I have friends who got married while still in uni and they actually used their financial aid towards wedding and honeymoon costs… As in, the money the school gave them for their educations went towards plane tickets and their books/living expenses for the term went on credit cards! Not saying that’s what your sister and her FI did but I remember my jealousy abruptly ended when I realized my friends were living on Cup Noodle after they got back to the States.
Post # 3
NowMrsS: I have friends who get to do these things and I have no idea how they pay for it. I just tell myself they can’t really afford it and they’re downing in credit card debt to pay for it. It might not be true but it makes me feel better 😀
Post # 4
liameowchelle: MsGinkgo: One day we will go somewhere even more exotic! Thanks for making me feel better. I can look at my credit card statement and not cringe, that will help me feel better too!
Post # 5
NowMrsS: I’ve had friends who went on honeymoon there and then later admited that they’d be paying it off for years. I’ve had other friends who simply can afford to go because they’ve saved and skrimped and paid fully in cash.
You never know what someone else’s financial situation is, or where their money comes from.
Do what you can to enjoy yourself. Just think, you don’t have to fly in an airplane for a day each way and go through major jet lag!
Post # 6
Me and my fiance have went on several major trips since we got together sometimes I can tell that others are jealous but we prioritize travelling over other stuff.
We are most likely getting married in Bora Bora but we are able to afford it by having a different lifestyle than most people. I have a Fiance that works away for long periods of time, we do not go out for expensive dinners often, we don’t spend money on drinking, we do not have campers and quads like most people we know.
We basically spend our money on travelling and our house.
I also did not start travelling till I was 26 , had never been out of canada
Post # 7
sway0060: I would love to prioritize travelling too and I know one day we will get to travel to all sorts of cool places. This was just a simple case of sibling jealousy 🙂 On a cold November morning, hearing about her beach resort honeymoon was just adding insult to injury! Our honeymoon was still wonderful and still very “honeymoon”-ish. I wouldn’t trade it for Bora Bora, but I would love to go there for an anniversary trip in the future!
Post # 8
I totally get that me and my sister do not get along and have had a long history of trying to one up each other. I also was very jealous of people getting to travel before I had the means to do so. I am now very forturnate to be able to go and see the places I only dreamed of going.
Our next trip besides the wedding is Dubai / Maldives I am beyond excited! and my wonderful fiance just proposed in Paris!
Travelling will come and then you can enjoy your own adventures 🙂
Post # 9
NowMrsS: I’m jealous of people whose parents paid for their schooling so that they didn’t need student loans and didn’t need to work through school. I constantly worry about having to pay my loans back.
We’re not really having a wedding proper (we’re getting married at FI’s parents house), so we’re not really spending much money for the wedding. It’ll come out to maybe a couple hundred dollars for the outfits and food. No catering, no photographer, no expensive dress, no decorations. We are saving all of our money so that we can go on a honeymoon next summer in Ireland. I definitely feel jealous of those people who have the money for a $30k wedding and fabulous honeymoon.
Post # 10
SithLady: That’s totally my sister. We paid for our wedding ourselves and my DH has student loans. My sis and her FI are grad students whose tuition is paid for by the school and they are having this huge 30K wedding and now the honeymoon. The wedding will be beautiful and the honeymoon will be amazing for them. I know jealousy is not an attractive feature and it does not happen often, but when it does, it sucks!
Post # 11
It’s easy to get jelous, but it’s always better to be smart. We got a week in a cabin for free becuase a person we both voulenteer for owns it. It was wonderful.
My co-workers are all going to Vegas or the carribean. And now they are in debt, lots of debt. Which means that they will be putting off parenting, home-owning and car repairs.
But that’s the way they choose to live their lives.
Post # 12
NowMrsS: I had this exact feeling when it came to my bachelorette and honeymoon. All my close friends got to go somewhere fun or a night out for their bachelorette parties but since I was looking out for my friends expense wise, I didn’t do what I really wanted to. As far as my honeymoon, everyone I know went somewhere tropical (Hawaii, Antigua, Key West, etc). Well my husband doesn’t like to fly so he wanted to go somewhere more local so we went to the mountains. It was a lot of fun but it wasn’t what I pictured for my honeymoon. On the plus side, we went to the Bahamas for our 1 year anniversary and we’re planning a family trip to the Keys for Christmas next year. So it all works out in the end.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2014 - backyard
Jealousy is not cool, just be happy for her. if it is travelling on debt, that is her issue. I am not a fan of jealousy, it can ruin other peoples moments. Just be happy for her
Post # 14
I’ll be married two years in December and haven’t gone on a honeymoon. Count your blessings.
Post # 15
NowMrsS: Ah I totally feel ya haha! I mean, we have definitely made the conscious choice not to go on a big honeymoon because I don’t know if I could handle planning that in addition to a wedding, but it is interesting watching cousins and friends have these huge weddings and extravagant honeymoons when they have no money of their own and their parents are footing the massive bill. Our plans make me feel better though because literally EVERY person I’ve known to get married in the last 2 years has gone to a resort at Punta Cana in the DR, and I’m looking forward to having some originality on our vaca!