that nervous excited feeling you get in the beginning

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll:
    I actually hate that stage (uncomfortable) : (22 votes)
    14 %
    I would love to re-live it with my SO : (93 votes)
    61 %
    I dont think or care about it at all : (25 votes)
    16 %
    Sometimes I wish Id experience it again with someone : (12 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 5
    Member
    5192 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    For me, that early infatuation is fun.  Not a state I’d like to be in all the time (because honestly, for like 2 years it was difficult to think about anything else!) but it’s fun.

    Because we are LD we’ve sort of suspended that feeling for a long time, but now it’s BETTER because you get to couple the excitement about seeing each other with the security and trust of an established relationship.

    If you want to rekindle that feeling, just spend a lot of time apart!  Ha ha!

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    6960 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @SaugaBride:  So funny. I just asked my FI the other day if he still gets excited when I text him. He said “yes” and I said “bullshit”. LOL I do get happy when he sends me cute, loving messages during the day and I’m SUPER excited for him to come home at the end of the day. But I still voted no I hated it. When we were in the beginning stages it was fun and stuff, but I just really wanted to get to the point where we knew what life was going to look like and loved each other’s famiiies like our own. I am very very happy to be a settled, boring couple who know what each other’s morning breath smells like. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1681 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @SaugaBride:  Cute thread! A few years ago, I was afraid of the fact that I would never feel that way about someone new. And then DH hit a rough spot where I did feel that way. Woah. Let me tell you, BAD stuff right there. Thankfully, I wouldn’t trade DH for the world, and I realize that I’m happy never experiencing that feeling so long as I have him! (Of course, I would love to feel that way again with him)

    ETA: The more I think about it. Maybe I wouldn’t want to relive those feelings. I waited for so long to get the point where I come home each day to a loving husband who means the world to me… and I’m here. I’ll stay here 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    2189 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    @SaugaBride:  I love those feelings! I love how we are now, but I would love that excited butterfly feeling more. Sometimes I get it when I think about specific memories. I still get little butterflies, but nothing will compare to those special chemicals in the first few months!

    Post # 9
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    No WAY. I HATED the instability at the beginning of relationships!

    I WAY prefer the comfort of an older relationship… Though some new relationship marathon sex could be fun!

    Post # 10
    Member
    1197 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I would love to relive our firsts:)  I’d known FI for a while through work, but he was still SUCH a mystery to me and I loved it!  Now I know him so well, which is great in a different way, but it would be nice to relive that chase agan.

    We had date night at a museum on a night Friday recently, I got dressed up for work (he was going to pick me up after) and got those first-date butterflies again.  It was great:)

    Post # 11
    Member
    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    I miss that stage! Lol. Would I like to experience it with dh? Of course! Someone else? If it meant not being with DH, then no. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I didn’t really have it as intensely with SO as I have with other love interests so I’m pretty indifferent. I didn’t know how SO felt about me and I wasn’t looking for something long term, it was just kind of fun.

    I guess thinking about it, it’d be nice to re-experience it knowing that she really is my “one” but I love so much what we have now, the deep connection, the completeness and comfortability…I don’t miss the beginning.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Sometimes I miss that ‘walking on clouds’ feeling. The anticipation of not tying up the phone line (us old timers will understand this) awaiting the phone call. Sometimes

    Post # 14
    Member
    1788 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    That “butterflies” feeling is really just fear and axiety over possibly not being able to have something you really want, or the thing you want possibly not being nearly as great as it seems at the time. If I ever start to think that I might miss this feeling, all it takes is a reminder of times when that fear and anxiety were warranted because an early relationship didn’t work out. I’m so lucky that my FI is by far the most stable thing in my life and my stomach doesn’t have to flip flop while I wonder whether he likes me as much as I like him. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    1549 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Well the beginning for us wasn’t nerve wracking or worrying about impressing each other at all. I loved it and I’d give anything to relive it with my dh. We had no cares in the world, we were just having fun and falling totally madly in love. For once in my life I felt totally comfortable being myself with someone right away. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    1136 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @SaugaBride:  My feelings aren’t really reflected in the survey, I was of course so happy during those early stages with my now FI but I MUCH prefer how things are now. I love that we know everything about eachother and how comfortable it is. I have wonderful memories of the beginning of our relationship but personally, I wouldn’t go back to that. The longer we’re together the better it gets!

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