(Closed) That sure did not take long….

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You call her up and you tell her that unfortunately, because of space and budget issues, you won’t be able to accommodate her daughter, but you’re so glad she and her husband will be able to make it and you know she’ll understand.

Most important thing: don’t back down!  You have a B list and those people are more important than your mother’s friend’s daughter!

Post # 4
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I say stick to your guns and ony allow the invited.  Will some people not come?  Maybe.  But it is VERY RUDE to add more people to an invite then are allowed.  I would be pissed.  It’s your (and your FI’s) wedding and you decide.

You need to contact her and let her know she has two seats, and whether or not she will be there.  You sound like you’re handling this gracefully- I’d be off my rocker!  Good luck.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is definitely smething you want to call her about so there is no miscommunication.  It is so annoying when this happens, but unfortunately you can pretty much guarantee that it will happen at least a couple more times. Just call her up and say, “We got your RSVP back and are excited you and *her husband* can make it to the wedding, but I wanted to give you a call because I saw you also RSVPed for *her daughter*. Normally we’d love to have her, but there are so many friends and family we’d like to invite to the wedding, but with space and budget restrictions we just had to draw the line somewhere, I apologize for any miscommunication but hope to still see you and your husband at the wedding.” If she implies they won’t come without their daughter, just say you’re sorry to hear that and they’ll be missed.

Post # 6
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Have your mom call her and let her down easy.

Post # 7
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10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Your mom needs to call her and explain to her counting works. 

Post # 9
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11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Who the F drags their adult child to a wedding with them when she clearly wasn’t invited? People blow my freaking mind!

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