Post # 1
Because of budgetary reasons, FI and I are doing an A list and a B list. So, we sent some invitations to our A list (yesterday) and people are already RSVPing for more than the allotted amount.
On our RSVPs, I said “__ seats have been reserved in your honor.” For one of my mother’s friends I gave her two seats, one for her and one for her husband. When I received her RSVP online, she RSVPed for her, her husband, and her adult daughter (whom I dont even know). WTH!
I just find that this is so funny! What part of ” 2 seats have been reserved in your honor” is so confusing. My mother said she must have taught that the 2 seats were extra seats. I was like, “WHAT?!” that makes absolutely no sense.
Some may say that I am being a bridezilla and its only 1 extra person but we have people on our B list that we really want to invite and if I allow everyone on the A list to bring extras then I cant invite anyone from the B list.
Oh well, I guess I have to prepare myself to be the bad guy and tell people that they cant bring extras. Because now, I see that people will completely disregard your instructions and do their own thing.
I dont know how to handle this. I dont want to tell her that we only have 2 seats for her and make her feel like she is not welcomed (I dont want her to not come because her daughter is not invited) but I really have no space for extra people (and people I dont even know!)
How do you bees handle these types of situations.
Post # 3
You call her up and you tell her that unfortunately, because of space and budget issues, you won’t be able to accommodate her daughter, but you’re so glad she and her husband will be able to make it and you know she’ll understand.
Most important thing: don’t back down! You have a B list and those people are more important than your mother’s friend’s daughter!
Post # 4
I say stick to your guns and ony allow the invited. Will some people not come? Maybe. But it is VERY RUDE to add more people to an invite then are allowed. I would be pissed. It’s your (and your FI’s) wedding and you decide.
You need to contact her and let her know she has two seats, and whether or not she will be there. You sound like you’re handling this gracefully- I’d be off my rocker! Good luck.
Post # 5
This is definitely smething you want to call her about so there is no miscommunication. It is so annoying when this happens, but unfortunately you can pretty much guarantee that it will happen at least a couple more times. Just call her up and say, “We got your RSVP back and are excited you and *her husband* can make it to the wedding, but I wanted to give you a call because I saw you also RSVPed for *her daughter*. Normally we’d love to have her, but there are so many friends and family we’d like to invite to the wedding, but with space and budget restrictions we just had to draw the line somewhere, I apologize for any miscommunication but hope to still see you and your husband at the wedding.” If she implies they won’t come without their daughter, just say you’re sorry to hear that and they’ll be missed.
Post # 6
Have your mom call her and let her down easy.
Post # 7
Your mom needs to call her and explain to her counting works.
Post # 9
Who the F drags their adult child to a wedding with them when she clearly wasn’t invited? People blow my freaking mind!