Post # 1
So, this morning before work I took one of my cats to the SPCA in hopes that he would find a new home. We have been having many issues with him for some time now and his personality has changed drastically over the years and it was clear he was just not happy anymore. One too many moves have just left him more and more removed from the family and I honestly think the only way to get him back to himself was to have him placed in a home where he would be the only pet with a person who would have the physical time to work with him.
Unfortunately the SPCA told me that they have over 200 cats, and there is a high possibility that he could be euthanized.
I feel like such a terrible cat mom, and like I gave up on him, and I seriously am just torn up. God bless all of the other cat mom’s, especially those with multiple cats. They are a lot of work and I just couldn’t do it anymore.
(If you don’t have anything nice to say, please don’t post. Thank you)
Post # 3
How old is your cat? Did you try to find a home for him with a friend? Did you do anything before taking him to the SPCA?
Post # 4
@sleepingbeauty88: I’m so very sorry you had to go through that. Are the cats already at the SPCA? If not, do you have any friends or family members that could take him?
I made the decision to give up my cats for the sake of my marriage, but my parents and grandparents took them (and believe me, they are MUCH happier then they would have been living full-time with DH). It was the hardest thing, but there was no other choice.
BIG, BIG HUGS!
Post # 5
That sounds really hard, and I’m sorry, but don’t beat yourself up over it. I’m an avid animal lover, and Mr. 99 and I have seriously lucked out so far with the animals we’ve got in our home, lord knows it’s a recipe for disaster should one of them decide to pull a personality 180 on us. The fact is that all we’re ever able to do is our best, and if you did that, your done. I know it doesn’t assuage your guilt just now, but keep asking yourself what else you could have done….seriously, you did you best, and that’s plenty for anyone.
Post # 6
@GreenEyedMoon: He was 12 and I tried many people. Even offered to pay people to take him. He was a very large cat with severe anxiety that neither SO or I could help him overcome. He did better when a friend of mine moved in with us for a bit as he hid in her room, but when she moved out she was unable to take him. In order to fully rehabilitate him he would’ve needed to be in a home as an only pet which is not something SO and I are able to give him, or anyone else we know.
@CherryWaves: I understand. His destructive behavior was something that was straining my relationship as well. SO is sad that he had to go as well as he has had pets all his life so he understands, but given the situation we felt more comfortable taking him to the SPCA on the slim chance someone would take him in versus taking him directly to the vet to be put down.
@Nona99: Thank you Nona. A 180 is exactly what he did, and that was what was the most heartbreaking. He used to play with toys, and snuggle, and he was very silly and affectionate. And now he would hide for days, is extremely overweight with hygiene issues, has digestive issues and elimination issues, and will change from cuddly cat to demon cat in mere seconds. It was a very sad transformation to see.
Post # 7
Did you try to find your cat a home via Craigslist or any cat rescue groups in your area?
If you didn’t, it’s not too late to go back and get the cat and try to find a good home before they euthanize him.
Here is one in VA: http://www.catrescueinc.org/
Post # 8
@Paigey: I did try a local cat rescue, but pretty much every place I spoke to was very overrun with homeless cats and I would’ve had to continue to keep him at my house, which was no longer an option for us.
Post # 9
You could try an ad on craigslist
At the shelter, you can offer to pay for his food in order to keep him off of the euthanasia list
I’m sorry but I believe that you owe it to your pets to try everything in your power to find them good homes if you can’t keep them—and dropping him off to the pound is a death sentence
Post # 10
A 12 year old cat in an overcrowded shelter has little or no chance of being adopted. If he already has anxiety issues, the shelter situation will not help that. Honestly, it would have been kinder to take him to the vet and have him euthanized than to put a senior boy in a shelter.
I am really trying to be nice here, but having pulled a cat from an impound, (and shelters are usually only a step above pound, if that)….I cannot imagine the terror your cat is feeling right now.
Post # 11
@Miss Apricot: I have to whole heartedly agree with this. The second i heard he will probably be euthanized i thought for sure you would take him back and just deal with him. He has no chance of adoption.
Post # 12
Had you taken him to the vet to make sure there was nothing physically wrong with him to cause the personality change? Cats are sensitive creatures, and behavioral issues can often be a sign of illness. I’m sorry, but I agree with Apricot, Swizzle, and Athame… He is your responsibility. Knowing he’s probably so scared and likely to be euthanized, can you get him back and figure something else out? It’s the compassionate thing to do.
Post # 13
@Miss Apricot: Right on the money, per usual.
OP, did you ever watch any episodes of My Cat From Hell? It’s on Animal Planet, usually on Saturday nights. Jackson Galaxy really has some amazing tips and techniques for working with cats who are, well, from hell. It takes a commitment to change a behaviour (human or animal) but he has turned around some really crazy cats.
Post # 14
@Miss Apricot: I 100% agree. I’m really trying to be understanding, but I agree that taking the cat to be euthanized yourself would have been a much fairer (for lack of a better word) way to go. I wish I lived in that area and could pick thup little guy up 🙁
Post # 15
@Miss Apricot: In hindsight I absolutely agree. I texted SO shortly after dropping him off that I don’t know who I was fooling and that we should’ve just taken him to the vet.
I don’t pretend that I was the perfect cat parent because I wasn’t. And I understand everything everyone has been saying, but I dealt with the situation as best as I could. We aren’t all perfect, and I know that this being the “pet” section was going to cause some flack. But I do honestly feel that the end result was the best decision for my family, and it was by far one of the hardest situations I have had to deal with in a long time, and is not a decision that I or my SO took lightly. We have been talking about it for several months and it trully just continued to be a more and more difficult situation. I don’t claim to have made the best choice possible, but I do feel that it was the right choice for my family.
Post # 16
@Miss Apricot: is totally right.
He’s twelve, and you left him there? There is ZERO chance he will be adopted.
I would go back, pick him up, and take him to the vet to be put down. It’s the kinder thing to do. Otherwise, he’s going to spend the last few days of his life absolutely terrified. At least this way, he could be put down before experiencing several days of terror.
I’m not going to say anything more than that because otherwise I’m going to get really, really, REALLY mean.