Post # 1
So I’ve read here and there from different posts people saying they’ve been to weddings that sucked. So I was wondering what would make you say “man, that wedding sucked?” I’m guessing it’s mostly if you feel you aren’t taken care of but what does that all include?
Having no music? Only a cash bar? Not being acknowledged or thanked for being there? Being bored? Having only cake and punch? Not having smoke and mirrors and $1,000 gift bags filled with diamonds? The wedding being too long or too short? What would make you say it sucks? I’m starting to worry, haha.
Post # 3
The weddings I’ve disliked were unorganized, had bad food, and/or played one type of music (country only). The organization factor can be a nightmare, but it’s worth trying to stay on schedule, have all your ducks in line, and work out everything with your vendors in advance.
Post # 4
there was only one wedding that sucked for me. i barely knew anybody, you couldn’t dance to the music, and the event seemed really stuffy (stuck up).
i am certain that other people loved it… but it wasn’t my cup of tea.
Post # 5
@LD333: I wedding I went to a while ago was good, for the most part. And I obviously had fun b/c it was like a 1 year reunion with some college buddies and I love the people that got married… BUT my biggest complaint was the DJ. He played decent music.. but was a HORRIBLE MC! I missed the cake cutting and a couple of other things because he did a bad job announcing it!!!!!!!!!! It may have been due to the venue (was at a winery and you could wander outside to a porch) but still. I was sad I missed the cake cutting. Also when they did the money dance, they were doing it to a polka (tradition) and instead of putting the track on repeat (it was a fairly short song) when there were obviously a lot of people still waiting to dance with the bride and groom… he let it go silent until we all shouted at him to put it on repeat!
Post # 6
I’ve never been to a wedding I didn’t like and that includes a wedding at the VFW hall with crap food and no dancing.
Post # 7
I won’t say they sucked lol but some are more frustrating and less ” pleasurable”
but the worse is having long stretches, especially without some type of drink or snack foods while the bride and groom and what not are getting ” pictures” done or some glitch in the venues locations and start times .
As long as there is some flow to everything and reasonable accommodations are made for guests your good to go!
Post # 8
The only wedding I hated was one that had a buffet style dinner and we were served in a certain order. It took a bagillion years to get food! I actually left before it was our turn. My mom was at the same table as me (I left, she stayed) and said that they were served last (1 hour & 40 mins after they started serving) and ran out of food. People were having seconds before others were served! It was like who gets picked last in gym class. Embarrassing…and tacky.
Post # 9
I have never been to a wedding that I thought 100% totally sucked but I’ve endured some sucky things at otherwise lovely weddings:
-One wedding where we had a brutally long gap between the ceremony and the reception. They did a single passed appetizer service and handed each guest a mimosa, then the serving staff went to go prepare for the reception while the bridal party went to take THREE HOURS of photos, meanwhile there was no bar, no cash bar, no N/A beverages, no nibbles, and nothing to do. Borrrrrrrrrring and made me feel like I wasn’t appreciated as a guest. I don’t expect full open bar for the duration but could you at least let me have a glass of iced tea and some cheese?
-Another wedding where they kicked us out of the room whenever it was time to turn the room. So after dinner, everyone gets booted outside while they set up for dancing. After dancing, back outside again while they set up for dessert and coffee. Ugh.
-A casual garden/back yard wedding where the hosts had not taken the buffet choices out of the tinfoil trays the drop-caterer packed them in. That really irked me. The food itself was really nice. It just really shouldn’t have been served in tinfoil.
-And one wedding where the couple spent like an hour after dinner showing a powerpoint slide deck of their photos, where they met, where they lived, what they looked like in high school, borrrrrrrrrrrrrrrring. 10-15 minutes is fun. An hour is not.
Post # 10
I went to a wedding recently that was jsu tnot my cup of tea. It wasn;t because I wasn;t taken care of or because they food was bad, but it really irked me that the couple didnt; take the time to put themselves into the day. Eveerything was like a check mark off of a list. Introduce couple- check. Cake cutting- check. First dance-check. There was nothign unique or specially “them” at the ceremony or the reception. The one thing they did have that was personal was their “money jar” that was int he shape of a beer mug. It isn;t what I would want, but I LOVED that it was totally them. I have nothign against doing things traditionally, but I think each couple needs to make it special by injecting themselves into the day.
Post # 11
the only thing i have disliked at weddings, is if the speeches go on forever. Especially if they’re during food. Then you don’t want to be rude and just shovel food in your mouth while they’re talking, and you sit there FOREVER waiting to eat. I think speeches should be kept to a time limit, especially if they’re about a gazillion stories that no one else knows or was there for..”remember that time when we did this, and then there was this time the bride/groom and i did this, and then there was this, and i remember a time when..” no one really wants to know unless it’s funny or sweet, and the reminiscing is best saved for a small group or in a letter lol.
Post # 12
the only wedding ive ever been to that was boring, was a cousin that had a TERRIBLE DJ. he played music that we couldnt really dance to minus Lil Jon and the East Side Boyz’s “Get Low” which he played like 5 times throughout the night… eek!
Post # 13
My brother and sister in laws wedding sucked.
Their ceremony was at 3 in the afternoon, and then they did not arrive to the reception venue until 6pm after their photos. During this time there were no accomodations made for any refreshments for the guests.
As the reception went until 11 pm, you would expect you would get fed, right? Nup- there was about two pieces of finger food per guest total.
There was an open bar, so it was clear where their priorities lay, but that then backfired, as free flowing alcohol and no food makes for drunk guests.
Really, it was horrible.
Post # 14
Ugh we went to one last summer that was really terrible.
– the ceremony was supposed to be “funny” but really came off totally tasteless and I’d say 90% of the guests didn’t get the joke. “I will not fart in public” is not a cute vow, sorry.
– the reception was a 45 minute drive from the ceremony and out in the middle of nowhere
– looooooooooong speeches. like really long. and a looooooong slideshow. We left at 9:30 and everyone was still sitting down at the tables looking bored instead of dancing and having fun.
Post # 15
I would say a weddig sucked if a few things happened:
The food was gross and horrible
The dancing/music was not good
Long wait periods (more than an hour) with nothing to do
No ‘fun’ elements at all
I also don’t get weddings where there is a cake but it’s not served…doesn’t make the wedding suck, it just irks me.
Post # 16
I haven’t been to many weddings, but the one that I really didn’t enjoy was sooo staged. There was no smooth flow to the timing. It took over an hour for the bride/groom to make their entrance during which there was only 1 cash bar and 2 waiters…so a LONG line and no snacks or anything. Then the dinner was served sooo slow, it took over an hour for everyone to get their buffet dinner, so the first people served were done by the time the last people got their food. Then every time the music started playing, they would send us back to our seats for some staged event (dances, toasts/speeches, cake cutting) and they weren’t all together so we’d dance for two songs and then sit, dance a bit and then sit. So it was really choppy. The dancing started 25 minutes before the wedding venue was to close, so it wasn’t really a party or celebration….it just felt like a “look at us” show, and that the guests weren’t a part of it at all except to bring gifts and to give compliments.