(Closed) The 2nd time around dilemma?

posted 6 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
7347 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think what you suggested is fine.  It is fine to have a different kind of wedding with a smaller guest list.  People need to understand- if they don’t its them being presumptuous. It is fine to send out engagement picture in a holiday card, but I would not necessarily announce the BBQ next summer because your guest list might change again before then.

Post # 4
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@smiles72: I think its a great idea to send the holiday card. Maybe the BBQ can be a surprise wedding. Just a thought, I think Jennifer Anniston and Brad Pitt did it that way. Congrats and good luck with your family;0)

Post # 5
375 posts
Helper bee

Sorry to hear about your no-show-groom but it sounds like everything has worked out for the best 🙂

Sending out a photo holiday card is a good way to get folks used to your FI’s face and name. As to the invited/not-invited list, I’d just simply invite those who are on your list (but separately from the season’s greetings) and not say anything to the others unless they are presumptuous enough to ask. Then just explain that it’s going to be a small wedding but that there will be opportunities to meet your new Fiance in the future.

I think most people will understand, really, without too much explanation. And I’d steer clear of anything that could be read as “we’re getting married but you’re not invited.”

Post # 6
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I like your idea of the holiday w/ engagment photo.  Maybe later on you could send a “save the date” for the Meet the _____ BBQ.  I am sure your friends will be so happy that you are now happy that they really won’t care if the plan is much smaller this time.  Your fiends just want to see you happy.  Best of luck to you both!!!

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