Post # 1
A friend who gave birth to her first child vaginally in her mid-30s told me that her vagina was “stretched out” by the process and the doctor told her it would likely be permanently loose. She’s not a very fitness oriented person so I don’t know if her preexisting (lack of) muscle tone had anything to do with that. But it has me worried because I may be mid-30s by the time my DH and I start TCC and the idea of having some permanent looseness is not appealing.
Does anyone have any thoughts, experiences, or insights on this?
Post # 3
I’m still in my twenties, but after three vaginal births, SO says he likes it more 🙂 I honestly think the men will love it no matter what.
Post # 4
I have two children who were both vaginal births. Neither one or DJ can tell any difference in the before and after.
Post # 5
Hm, I can’t tell a difference after having a vaginal birth, and DH has no complaints! I wouldn’t worry too much.
Post # 6
Gotta do those kegel exercises to make sure it’s toned before hand!
Post # 7
I don’t feel a difference with mine and my DS is 4 months old today.
Post # 8
Personally I think her Dr is an idiot. Everything that I have read or heard is that the vagina stretches but does not stay stretched. Now if you had a baby head stretching your vagina for a week/month/etc then maybe lol but for the few seconds/minutes you are actually pushing that baby out, I say no way. ( I don’t mean all the labor just the actual birth)
Post # 9
I try not to think about what will happen to the vajayjay after I give birth. I’m hoping it “snaps back” so to speak.
Post # 10
There isn’t much of a noticeable difference to be honest.
I have a 8lb 13.9 oz baby vaginally. They had to use the suction cup to get her out because she wouldn’t budge past my pelvic bone. I had a HORRIBLE tear requiring 8 stitches.
I asked for a 9th stitch (the “love stitch” that’s supposed to give a little more tightness so to speak)
The “doctors” I had were getting out of training and they were brand new. Lucky me. The actual doctor would come in the room every now and then to check on the progress but they were the ones to stitch me up.
Instead of doing 9 seperate stitches, they did like a shoe lace stitch all the way up. So needless to say the stitches came undone within a couple of days. Talk about pain! The stitches were pretty useless and it had to heal on its own.
It went back to normal. Heck, during pap smears the doctor has to use the smaller “duck” instruments (what I call them because of their shape) the one meant for much smaller people and I’m 5’9 and not small at all. But even after having my child who was a HUGE child, Big things don’t fit down there at all.
Basically, do kegel exercises, they help and don’t worry about it. It’s worth it even if it does and it likely wont.
Post # 11
I recently asked DH how it was “down there”. He says it’s just like before!
Post # 12
Ladies, I just have to say… I’m 21 and nowhere NEAR ready to start TTC yet- that’s at least 4-5 years away. But…
This has ALWAYS been a huge fear of mine (along with flabby after-baby stomach, stretch marks, and saggy boobs :/) and hearing most of you say your vag was totally normal afterwards makes me feel SO MUCH BETTER.
So thank you all so much. <3
Post # 13
We still are attempting sex after the birth of our baby 3 months ago. It hurts at the moment because it feels tighter. We joked that it’s like I’m a virgin again.