(Closed) The age old bridemaid question…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: If you were a bridesmaid in someone's wedding, would you feel obligated to have them in yours?
    YES, you have to have girls in your wedding if you were in theirs. Period : (0 votes)
    Depends on the situation but probably : (13 votes)
    27 %
    Heck, it's your wedding! Just choose who you want and don't worry about anyone else : (31 votes)
    63 %
    Give them another designation like guest book duty, honorary guest, etc : (4 votes)
    8 %
    I would feel way too guilty so I would have them be bridesmaids no matter what : (1 votes)
    2 %
    other, please give me advice! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Choose who you want, don’t worry about who chose you. It’s a recipe for problems if you choose people you don’t really want there, and everyone’s situations are different. They may have chosen you because they had different circumstances.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1294 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    times and relationships change.. i think you should make the best decision for YOU . if someone gets upset about it, you did not do the wrong thing. I wasnt in a friend of mines wedding but i am going to have her in mine and it doesnt bother me, we just got closer since hers. I think it goes vice versa for growing apart.

    if you do feel guilty, find something special for them to do. always do what works best for you

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    2213 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would pick who I’m closest to now, if I were you.  The quality of friendships can change over time, and I don’t think someone you were super close to years ago would be offended not to be chosen as a BM if you’ve drifted apart.  How many people’s weddings have you stood up in?

     

    Post # 6
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    4442 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    Honorary Guest? Gah please don’t insult anyone by calling them that or make them stand around guarding the guest book – that sounds TERRIBLE!

    Post # 8
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    2213 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Azalea_Bee:  Gotcha.  Yeah, if you’re still close with those two other ladies, sure, it would be nice to have them with you on your big day.  If not, I would just go with whoever you ARE close to now.

    Case in point:  I’ve been in two weddings, one was my sister’s, and like your case, she will definitely be my MOH when I get married.  The other was my best friend from high school, who I just saw for the first time in 3 or 4 years this weekend!  Unless we really rekindle that friendship, I will probably not choose her as an attendant when I do get married.

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