Post # 1
I know there have been a million of these postings, but I want some opinions on my situation.
I don’t like my boss. He can probably sense that I’m not a huge fan of his. I don’t really want him to be at my wedding. But my work dynamic is a little different than others. I don’t really have other co-workers, it’s just me and my boss. That’s it. We work closely together on a day to day basis.
I’ve never been out with him in a social environment before. Our relationship is strictly work related. The thought of him being at my wedding seeing me drinking, dancing, being social, etc. makes me uncomfortable. However, it also makes me uncomfortable the thought of working so close with him at the office and not inviting him to my wedding. I know that he went to the wedding of the girl that had my position before me.
This is totally stressing me out! Thoughts?
Post # 3
Don’t feel obligated to invite him. Remember its YOUR WEDDING!
Post # 4
Don’t do it! I didn’t even think to invite any coworkers. I didn’t even think of thinking of inviting them. 😉
Post # 5
Especially if it’s a small office, I think you’re safe to invite no one from work, including your boss. But I wouldn’t invite one person, but leave your boss out.
Post # 6
If you don’t like him, don’t invite him. I’m sure he won’t be offended.
Post # 7
You can choose not to invite him, just be sure to keep quiet about your wedding plans. He may know you’re getting married, but don’t take every chance you get to blab about the wedding. That would give him the impression he’s invited.
Post # 8
I only invited co-workers that I socialize with and see outside of work so I wouldn’t invite him.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t. If there’s nobody else in the office to talk ‘wedding talk’ to then he won’t know any details. If he askes maybe just say its a small venue, only family and a few friends etc. Unless you’re close he probably won’t be offended. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 10
I was in a very similar situation as you: small office, work very closely with my boss, previous person in my position invited him to their wedding. At first, I was hell bent on not inviting him. It made me uncomfortable to think about it. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it was very likely that by not inviting him I would only make things worse between us by possibly offending him. So I decided to be the bigger person and just invite him, and even though the wedding hasn’t happened yet, I can tell you that I am very glad that I did. He tells me often how much he is looking forward to it. His wife even called the other day and said that they love weddings but don’t get invited to them very often so they are really looking forward to it. Plus, and this sounds weird, but I think he has been more lenient on me since he got the invite. It may sound silly, but sometimes being an adult and just doing something you don’t want to do, even if it is a little uncomfortable and even if it is your wedding day, can make things turn out for the better.
Post # 11
If you just have a professional environment, and no social interactions, then I wouldn’t worry about it!
Post # 12
I worked in a small office with 5 other people and was only going to invite my boss and co-workers because my wedding is in another state and I knew none of them would come. Of course then I got laid-off so now I’m super glad I didn’t invite them! My FI works for a huge company and invited his boss only because he really likes him. So, I think if you don’t like the guy and you know he’ll come don’t give him the chance.