Post # 1
…no this is not a flashback to my college dorm when I went through a Three Days Grace phase.
I’m talking about how WAITING has turned me into this girl I never wanted to be.
For the first time ever (and I would never admit this to people I know IRL…)
I find myself going through his stuff! Not because I’m jealous or suspicious or have trust issues but because I’m so DAMN IMPATIENT about this proposal thing. I’m a control freak! I want to know when its coming so bad sometimes. He left his Facebook open and I checked his messages. Checked his bank statement laying open on the table (Seriously who pays off their balance every month?) and some other things.
Want to know what I found?
Nothing. Not nothing, as in, I found normal stuff. I mean nothing, as in, information had been deleted and intentionally removed! His inbox(es) were empty, and his underwear drawer just has underwear and mismatched socks.
A little birdie (aka my best friend) told me she messaged him on FB giving him some tips on proposals since I told her we had gone shopping. That message was nowhere and she’s not spilling anything else! But that inbox history is gone.
He’s good. Real good.
But NOW I take a step back and I feel SO SHITTY about doing those things. Shitty in general for snooping like that. I had an ex boyfriend check my phone because he didn’t trust me and that felt awful. I need to lock this shit down!
There was only one text conversation in his inbox of his phone. It was a random conversation he started 5 months ago with my stepdad. Its the only one he saved and I know why. He doesn’t have the number in his phone and he doesnt want to lose it before he calls to ask permission to marry me.
I’m a horrible girlfriend.
But it feels good to get it off my chest!
…and to know he’s got a wonderful wonderful secret he’s keeping
Anybody else turn into a madwoman during The Wait?!
Post # 3
@MissRuthie: you are not alone! I know he has the ring & guess who keeps peeking at it? this girl. I also think (without any good reason) he’s waiting for the right time- so I keep planning things that would be perfect opportunities. No luck so far, I’ve been a mad women lately too. Before he had the ring I was just as guilty as you- snooping, when I’m not a snooper! Shame on them for not doing all the ASAP, right. ;)?
Post # 4
@MissRuthie: *deadpan* Nope. The rest of us are all perfectly sane and content. You are the only crazy one. Ever. In the History of the World. Ever.
*grins* We all act a bit crazy at times. My SO pays off his balances every month too. I’m glad he can. I certainly can’t. LOL
Just chill out. If he’s erasing stuff, that means he thinks you’ll do what you are doing and he doesn’t want any clues left behind. Take a deep breath, relax, and go hang with previously mentioned friend. Enjoy this time…(I say it and have a hard time doing it)
Once that sparkly is around, you will have a whole different kind of crazy to deal with.
Post # 5
@MissRuthie: Lol! Stop woman you have gone mad! Let him take the lead. This is his big moment and you will be so upset if you ruin it. I was a lil cray before my FI asked but I’m so happy I didn’t figure it out. The wait is worth it. 🙂
Post # 6
Lol I just feel like a nag and a shrew… I never wanted to be that type of a person, I get on my nerves. Exceedingly Patient SO always says it’s fine and he doesn’t mind and he wants to get married too, but then I just feel like a terrible person when I bring it up every other day. So, not the same type of behavior, but yeah, waiting has turned me into a jerk.
Post # 7
Why are you trying to ruin it for yourself?
Post # 8
@MissRuthie: I hear ya!!! My SO is a clean freak so there’s never any paper evidence left around! He’s such a clean freak that he deletes all messages and e-mails after he reads them! I’m pretty sure its either gonna be the end of august, mid october or end of nov/early dec!
most of the time i’m fine but other times i’m like i need to know! i need to know now!!!!!!!!!!
I never even wanted to get married before I met my SO!! Arghhhhhh!
i’ve noticed i’ve become obsessed with checking out ppl’s hands for rings! like the cashiers in stores ha ha
Post # 9
Hahah I do the same things! I am SUCH a surprise ruiner (yes, I was the kid who looked for Christmas presents…every single year. I even ruined Santa for myself!), but I just CAN’T HELP IT!
Unfortunately, SO knows this…and is also a computer science nerd. He’s managed to create secret/hidden folders on his computer and in his email so that no matter what I look for or search for, I can’t find it. He’s done this in the past, so I’m SURE that he’ll do this when he’s planning his proposal and things like that.
Damn him for knowing me so well! And I AM trying to control myself..ahh it’s just so hard.
Post # 10
I just fish for information, which gets me nowhere. I don’t really like surprises, I like knowing what I’m getting and when.
Post # 11
@MissRuthie: Think of it as stories you can think back on in the next few years (maybe months) and smile to yourself. I’m sure that there are a lot of us who has done some strange things thanks to us expecting a proposal. Maybe some hasn’t gone as far as you and maybe some has done worse… you are in the right place (the waiting bee board)
I am not the type of chick who has been dreaming of a wedding from the age of 2 and gushes over a colour theme nor even check out the ring finger after an engagement is announced but now a days I feel like a maniac… I would wait until someone (especially Mr. Browneyes) brings up anything wedding related and I would take over that conversation!! Sometimes I feel horrible for doing it especially when I am the only person in the conversation. I am now trying to keep my mouth shut.
We get a lil crazy sometimes just don’t let it take over.
Post # 12
@MissRuthie: I know it’s so gratifiying to snoop and dream right now, but ENJOY where you are right now!!! VERY soon, you may never be just “dating” again!
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
Lol I snooped when my then bf was behaving so nervously. I even KNEW where the ring was hidden. I just had a hunch (which I later asked and he told me and I was right) so at some point I was in the hotel and went looking through his stuff and I stopped when I found the box it was hidden in and told myself “if its meant to happen it will” and left things be. I am so glad I didn’t ruin it. I couldn’t explain the feeling I had the moment he stepped on stage and began telling his story and then finally called my name and the spotlight hit me. It was amazing. So stop looking, breath, it will happen and it will be the most amazing feeling ever!