Post # 1
Yes, EJS needs a hive hug. My parents are on their 25th anniversary-moon and I have no one to talk to! GRR! Lemme break it down:
Hubs filed for release from the Army before our wedding, in JUNE. They lost the paperwork. He filed again. Lost again. Third time’s a charm. Lost again!!! WTF. Ridiculous. So he began to deal with a Major who has an ins. You’re not really supposed to do it like that and go above your authority, but the Major was sympathetic and said she’d help. Well, the Major knows the old lady who handles some of this paperwork. Completely clueless with zero incentive to do soldier’s paperwork apparently. He said it’s really an issue becaue civilians get paid next to nothing and have zero incentives and in general there is no system to ensure stuff doesn’t get lost and nothing is automated. She said this paperwork usually takes 4 MONTHS to do. No WAY is he getting out by end of August. Esp since it was lost 3X!
So instead of him getting out of the Army by Labor Day, he now has to buy plane tickets for Labor Day (last minute, pricey lemme tell ya) and October (he’s best man in a wedding), cover rent and utilities all by himself (he has a roommate who’s getting out soon) and doesn’t know when he’ll come home. All these last minute and unforseen expenses make it so he only walks away with about $1,000 a month in “pay”. So his pay gets cut in a quarter. Sucky! Did I mention we already have a mortgage and utilities in St Louis? yeah.
And, saw my gyno last week…she’s sending me to a fertility expert. She’s worried she’s reached her medical limits with me and I need the specialist b/c my endometriosis is getting so bad I need surgery. Great. I can’t work for 3 weeks and will be on partial pay. And somebody has to take care of me! That was supposed to be him. So now this throws a HUGE wrench in the clockworks. It’s an invasive surgery and basically, it’s really humiliating to be to the point that you can’t even go to the bathroom by yourself or take care of other personal feminine issues. I only want my husband to have to take care of me like that. It’s bad enough I can’t do it myself!
Vent over. The Army likes to bend you over a table basically. We were so close to being done with this bull!
I’m sure tomorrow I’ll have moved on. But it just breaks my heart to have known for so long that he was supposed to be coming home two weeks from Friday and now we have zero clue. Thanks for listening! I do feel better after venting. Now I”ll go crab on other peoples’ boards about their wedding drama =]
Post # 4
I’m sorry EJS *hugs* I know how much of a pain the Army can be, ESPECIALLY when it comes to paperwork. It’s like whenever it’s something you need they can take their sweet time but when it’s the other way around it’s the opposite.
My fiance has been deployed since March and just got his orders showing that he was being deployed a week or so ago (which we needed to get out of leases etc.). You would think those kind of things would be needed before they ship out.
Post # 5
That sucks, ejs! Seriously, sucks. I know you know things will get better, but just in case… Hang it there! Hugs! You can do it!!!
Post # 6
It’s like winning the lottery only to find out you messed up understanding the numbers!….after you bought a new car, LOL
I shouldn’t even be surprised, that’s the thing!!!
Post # 7
Haha good analogy. So sorry this is happening to you, EJS. How frustrating! I wish we could all do something to help..but the Army world is far beyond the hive’s abilities, as you know! Just know we’re all here to listen to you vent when you need it!
Post # 8
Oh boy. FI is a sailor and we have been together for almost five years. I know all about civillians messing up paperwork. I feel for you guys, I really do. You really feel helpless at times when dealing with this sort of stuff, they just pass the blame around until they loose your complaint too.
Post # 9
So sorry EJS!! Hope you get to be with your man soon and all works out for the best.
Post # 10
Sigh, I know. I hate to blame the civilians, but at the same time, he says it’s always a problem. Makes me want to do it myself! It’s so frustrating. Why hasn’t the Army gone automated?!
He’s now flying in the Thursday before labor day. What a pain! We’re both in the same wedding that weekend (YAY!) which will be fun, but we won’t get a ton of time together. I’m glad I booked us a hotel downtown, though! Farmers Market on Sunday.
Keep on the sunny side, always on the sunny side, LOL.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry. = ( **HUGS**
Post # 12
I’m so sorry to hear that EJS! I know I have a lot of things like that to look forward to as part of Army wifedom, so I feel your pain!
Post # 13
I hope everything works out for you like you want them to. Sorry stuff sucks right now. 🙁 *hugs*
Post # 14
ive been told that to fix up a pay problem with the military can take a very very long time but to actually stuff up someone’s discharge from service is huge. hopefully they will sort it out quickly Ej!!!!!
Post # 15
Oh man oh man, I am so sorry Ejs. How horrible it all must be! When are you getting the surgery? it’s so awful!
hugs hugs hugs!
Post # 16
Oh yuck, ejs. Why is the military always so inept with paperwork? I have the worst time with my military family patients and the referrals, etc etc etc. BIG HUGS your way, and hope it pans out in the end!!!! <3
Edit: I am also really sorry to hear about the endometriosis worsening. While it sucks you’re being passed off, hopefully the person your gyno is referring to knows what they’re talking about and go through all the options with you. Do you have a close girl friend or family member that can help you out after surgery?