Post # 1
I’ve just finished reading both ‘The Baby Whisperer’ and ‘The Happiest Baby on The Block’ and I’m interested in stories of those who have read either or both of these books, and if you had any success with applying the principles in them to your babies?
The two approaches seem to differ a bit and I am a bit confused as to what to follow once I have my baby!
Tracy Hogg emphasises teaching the baby to calm itself through the EASY routine, whereas Dr Karp swears by the 5 S’s (swaddling, side-position, swinging, sucking and sssh’ing).
Post # 3
I just finished Happiest baby on the Block and would like to know if it’s worked as well!
Post # 4
Thea happiest baby was a godsend for us. I would focus on that for at least the first 3 months and then baby whisperer. They aren’t as divergent as youthink. Ultimately the ideas are all tools and you will use the ones that work best for you and your baby. We ended up way more attachment parenting because of our circumstances.
Post # 6
@brownieMomma: Thank you! Did you use a white noice tape or just make the Sssh’ing sound yourselves? And did you use a bouncer or bounce and swing the baby yourselves?
I was worried that if I started on the Harvey Karp approach it would be too late to introduce EASY after 3 months, but I’m glad they are not as divergent as I think.
It’s my first one so I have no idea how it will be to try and apply these things in practice.
Post # 7
I think it’s important to note that these methods are not exclusive. You can use them together or in conjunction with other methods. You can start the EASY routine from birth, and just the HBOTB methods when you really need it (i.e. when your newborn is screaming and you have no idea why) because the EASY routine is a longer-term approach, while the HBOTB is an immediate fix. So they’re not exactly tackling the same issues.
Having said that, I personally didn’t implement the EASY routine. That’s a parent-led approach, while I took a child-led approach. Neither are right or wrong; it’s just what works for you/your family, and child-led was best for us.
The HBOTB was really helpful for both of my kids. Every child likes it a little bit different or responds more to some of the S’s over others. For example, my daughter really needed LOUD shushing right in her ear (along with white noise in the background) and very vigorous swinging; I used to have to jog in place or jump up and down with her in my arms to make the jiggling hard enough. My son is much happier with white noise from my phone, and I can just rock him in the rocking chair instead of jiggling. He was also much more dependent on the swaddle, though, and I’d often have to double swaddle him to make it tight enough. So you might have to do a little experimenting to see how your LO responds/what your LO likes best.
Post # 8
I read HBOTB when I was pregnant and was really gung ho about implimenting the idea in the book. Then my son came and I sort of forgot about it because for the first few weeks he seemed to be sleeping ok. Around 6 weeks he started not wanting to nap and his night sleep wasn’t getting any longer. Out of desparation, I went out and bought the Miracle Blanket. He had broken out of the Halo swaddles (he is a big boy and very strong :)) and I thought it was because he liked sleeping with his arms out so I didn’t think it would work. At first he got really pissed off about having his arms wrapped up and then- BOOM- he was out like a light. It was amazing. The first night we swaddled him I think he slept like 6-7 hours straight (previously he had probably only gone as long as 4). I realized that his flailing arms were really waking him up a lot and we actually kept him swaddled until around 5 months for this reason.
I also started using the white noise machine around the same time as the swaddle. It also helped him when I did the “SHHHHH” but there is only so long you can do that :). I would use the White Noise app on my iphone and rest it on his chest while I was rocking him and he would be out in 3 minutes.
So- long story short- I was somewhat late in applying a lot of the principles in the book but I really believe they work.
Post # 9
@dookie32: @Mrs. Spring: Thank you both for your insightful and helpful answers. I am so pleased to hear the two methods may not be mutually exclusive, and that some of the HBOTB techniques have worked.