The Battle of Good Witch v. Evil Witch

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

-_-

 

Wooow. 

 

 

Post # 4
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237 posts
Helper bee

I know you aren’t serious. 

Post # 5
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626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No be better than that.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Was this a one-time oversight on the part of SIL?

If so, I’d be just as gracious to her as everyone else. No fingers lifted, yadda yadda.

Not so one-time, in fact, she’s always asking a little too much from you?

I’d be mostly above it… mostly. But yeah, I’d ask her to do some things, ideally  some similar types of things to what she asked you for, because frankly, if she’s a “taker” kind of person, it’s never going to be balanced between you two, unless you push back.  

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Oh please people. Like it hasn’t crossed any of your minds to be a jerk to someone who was so inconsiderate to you! geez….

HOWEVER…

OP, while I find your idea entertaining I would definitely just be better than her and handle things the right way. If you do seek revenge, you are no better than she is.

Besides, no one forced you to take on the role you did at her event. You did that of your own free will. If there was no wait staff you should have let her figure it out on her own. Instead, you did the work on your own. I would have done the same but you werent forced by SIL to do this. She didn’t ask it of you. At least I dont think she did based on your post. So you’re gonna punish her for something you CHOSE to do?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have someone similar to this in my family.  They often use people and tend to think of themselves first.  If your niece and SIL are anything like mine, they prolly won’t even think to offer help.

On the flip side, this sounds like a case of what you’d like to do (giving them a taste of their own medicine) versus what you will do (because you know they prolly won’t get it anyway and you don’t want to be like them).

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Exactly. I think that if you really do need the help then it isn’t bad to ask for help since she had no problem asking you to help. But I wouldn’t specifically go off and give her all kinds of stuff just to be mean.

I probably wouldn’t have told her no even if she had asked, but knowing how you felt, and what her actions made you think of her, I woulnd’t want to be viewed that way so I wouldn’t do it back to her simply because I would do things right and make sure it was noticed.

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